To think that damage has been done.

[Spiceupyourlife1]

I drank heavily 3 times during the first 8 weeks of my pregnancy not knowing I was pregnant. Baby was born all in the 75th percentile with all her measurements/weight ect. She has been following her growing curve too. I cannot shake this guilt that I've caused damage in those early days of pregnancy. I have been looking for signs and since she got diagnosed with a vsd i have gone on overdrive. One of the signs is hockey stick palmer crease which is all I can see now. She also has epicanthal folds which is also linked. She is hitting all her milestones and except from these things I keep finding she is a happy baby who sleeps alot and smiles alot. Am I being unreasonable to think I've caused neurological damage? Sorry if I sound ridiculous, a very guilty mum here.

Oh go away @HanginWithMyGnomies I'm not even reading your nasty posts anymore.

I drank every single day on my honeymoon, and not just one or 2 cocktails, I got absolutely fucking shitfaced pretty tipsy most nights

Came back to find out I was 6 weeks pregnant. DD is 4months and completely fine

Please try not worry.

It's almost certainly nothing that you did. From what I understand you have to drink a LOT to make a difference.

But look.

Even if we suppose for a second it WAS caused by something you did - or didn't do - during pregnancy, what difference does it make? It is what it is and beating yourself up about it or worrying you caused it, when you'll never be able to prove or disprove it, won't change the outcome.

I know how hard it is, but try to focus on the outcome and supporting your baby now, not the cause or what may have happened in the past.