To think that damage has been done.

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I drank heavily 3 times during the first 8 weeks of my pregnancy not knowing I was pregnant. Baby was born all in the 75th percentile with all her measurements/weight ect. She has been following her growing curve too. I cannot shake this guilt that I've caused damage in those early days of pregnancy. I have been looking for signs and since she got diagnosed with a vsd i have gone on overdrive. One of the signs is hockey stick palmer crease which is all I can see now. She also has epicanthal folds which is also linked. She is hitting all her milestones and except from these things I keep finding she is a happy baby who sleeps alot and smiles alot. Am I being unreasonable to think I've caused neurological damage? Sorry if I sound ridiculous, a very guilty mum here.

I have a vsd and the same line on my palm. My mother almost certainly drank while pregnant (this was the 1970s after all) I’m fine. The only thing I’ve had to do any different was have antibiotic cover for dental work, additional scan during pregnancy and a system in place for the end of delivery. All very common and handled without fuss by my hospital.

Congratulations op your baby girl is beautiful.

Please, please, please go and speak to your gp about your worries. I did something similar (was paranoid I would accidentally hurt the baby without realising) and I became quite poorly with pnd. I stopped sleeping and became obsessed. Please step away from google- you can explain it all to your doctor or hv and they will most likely be able to reassure you and help with how you are feeling. How you are feeling is not your fault but it’s better to get it sorted rather than letting it build up

Thankyou everyone, I think I might have a case of Post natal anxiety that seems to have got worse after the vsd diagnosis. I suppose when things don't go 100% perfect whilst you're in such a fragile mind it leads to blaming yourself. I am going to seek help and advice from the GP tomorrow. Thankyou for everyones reassurance. I will take a back seat and enjoy my time with my DD and stop obsessing. I apologise if I have offended anyone posting the picture, I just wanted abit of closure on whether I needed to be concerned about them or if anyone else had LOs with the same.

Btw my hands look just like your dds no idea why because my mum doesn’t drink at all

Firstly, epi folds can just be in your child's genes, I know several very beautiful women with them.

HanginWithMyGnomies in what way is it distasteful? Or offensive?

I called one of my girls my sambuca baby... I went out (I think twice) and got hammered on sambucas (I can feel MN clutching their pearls that someone went out and drank irresponsibly!)

To make it doubly bad, I can't remember which child was said sambuca baby!

Glad you're going to talk to someone about your anxieties spice It's really common to feel the way you do and much better to share it than bottle it up. PND can manifest in funny ways and if you have a touch of this it would be so easy to fall into a pattern of obsessing and panicking about your baby's development.

It's natural to worry about your children's health and panic about worst case scenarios. If it makes you feel better, I still do and my oldest is 18 now

All babies have eye folds to a degree because the bridge of their nose has not developed.

Take care of yourself.

One of mine has very pronounced epi folds I had no idea it was linked to drinking in pregnancy.
I didn't drink at all while pregnant as I rarely (twice a year, maybe Xmas/birthday) drink full stop.

Sorry I don’t know much about this but she is absolutely adorable . Lots drink in early pregnancy not knowing etc. and the babies are fine.

@Oswin posting a picture of your baby on an Internet forum to ask if you’ve ‘damaged it’ is distasteful, but that’s just my view. That said, I’m glad OP got all the support she did.

Lots of people have epicanthal folds (I certainly do!) and just from this thread you can see plenty have the hockey stick palmar line and it doesn’t mean anything at all, especially not on a child meeting their milestones. You should definitely have a talk to somebody about your anxiety if it’s stopping you enjoying your beautiful girl

Gorgeous baby
Anxiety is horrible though - I hope your GP can help

She's gorgeous.

Many, many women drink before they know they are pregnant so there would be a lot of babies out there with problems if it was that much of an issue. Don't be so hard on yourself.

I’m not sure if this is the right way to put this, but it’s really distasteful to post a picture of your baby (as gorgeous as she is) to a forum of strangers to garner opinions as to whether you e damaged her!

Oh of course it isn't! Get over yourself. OP came to a place with thousands of parents and their combined parenting and child development experience in order to get some reassurance. Who are you to tell her not to do that when she's clearly consumed with fear and anxiety? What's awful is telling a frightened new mother that she shouldn't be seeking help and reassurance.

@WendyMoiraAngelaDarling get a grip and don’t tell me to get over myself. RTFT wasn’t just me pointing it out.. jeez, over dramatic much 😂

jeez, over dramatic much 😂

Says you

@WendyMoiraAngelaDarling and at least two others as it goes ;) laters sweetheart

No one else told OP she was "distasteful" x 2 that was just you. A really nasty thing to say to a scared parent while offering no actual advice. Clearly you don't like being pulled up on your unpleasantness, though do seem to like dishing it out 🤔

You have a beautiful baby girl there. You cannot change the past but you can be the best mom you can be to her now. Stop obsessing and just love her, she will be fine

I drank very heavily when I was about 4-5 weeks pregnant, before I knew. My Dd had a VSD that she had open heart surgery to repair a year ago. Whatever anyone else says I will always think it's my fault.

Anxiety is so painful, Hope you get a good response and support from your GP.
Congrats on your gorgeous girl.

Another one here with similar palmar creases to your baby. Her face looks entirely normal to me - and I had a baby who the nursing staff suspected of having Down's Syndrome . It blighted the first two weeks of my life with her.
Don't let that be you. Enjoy her - she looks lovely!

@WendyMoiraAngelaDarling I’m not going to keep derailing the ops thread with your ridiculous need for some attention. I put it as delicately as I could, other people found it inappropriate in some manner too (for our own personal reasons). You don’t have to agree, I really couldn’t care if you do. It’s not your post.

The op got the support she needed, like I said, I’m glad she did! Plenty of people didn’t agree with us few who felt that way and I definitely was in no way nasty to the op.. go make up stories on another thread. Last I’ll say on it. On your way now

@Oysterbabe I feel like that about my child's autism, dyspraxia and hyper mobility. I drank three large glasses of wine one night before I knew I was pregnant but was definitely after implantation. I've seen doctors who have always reassured me but always at the back of my mind I wonder if I made it worse than it might have been. I try not to dwell on it too much because there's nothing that can be done but it's always there.