To get annoyed my mums constantly presence on Facebook..

[Bee1511]

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My mum is glued to her phone and Facebook which is her choice ofc.

I don’t post much other than the odd photo, status update or funny quote or something. I don’t post every day. Immediately after posting something she’s all over it which really isn’t the issue. But it’s her getting involved with absolutely everything.

Once I woke up to about 200 Facebook notifications. She had gone through several years worth of posts and photos from 2008 and liked them all.

For instance, I posted a photo of my daughter. One of the school run mums commented on it. Somebody my mum doesn’t even know and she’s liking and replying to her comment like she’s her best mate. This happens every time I post something and it’s starting to pee me off. Like let me breathe please... let me have my own friends.

My mum has always been over bearing in every single way possible and it’s impossible to talk about.

Like I said I don’t put much on much in social media to be honest. Is it any wonder?

Aibu to be annoyed by this? Or am I just being precious?

It’s just she won’t let me have my own friends or life without interfering and getting involved in everything.

Constant not constantly sorry 😏

Change it so that she can only see public posts and then occasionally make a public post every now and again?

Restrict what she can see
Or block her

There’s no reason for you to be friends on there. I don’t have my kids on there for this reason.

This is one of the reasons I came off Facebook. My own DM is obsessed and my ILs have to be the first to comment on everything. Drove me mad so I just came off it, now back on just so I know what's going on with school and local gossip group but not friends with DM or in laws now. Wanted to scream 'these posts aren't for YOU so shush' every time.

When you post there is an option to post only to certain friends (or to leave out certain friends from seeing your posts). I'd do that. You cannot change her, noone but her can do that, but you can change your own behaviour.

My mil is a bit like this so I just exclude her from seeing anything I don't want her to comment on.

Change your privacy settings.

Hide your posts from your mother. Problem solved.

It sounds like a combination of loneliness and not quite getting social-media etiquette. You could certainly adjust your settings so that she sees less, although in some ways that seems a little bit mean, and will I guess just worsen any feelings of isolation she has (especially if she ever finds out, and she might). Is there any way you can help her to find something else to occupy herself with?

I think my son has an account just for us and another for his friends .

Once I woke up to about 200 Facebook notifications. She had gone through several years worth of posts and photos from 2008 and liked them all.

This, for example, just sounds like a slightly misguided way of her wanting to show the world she loves you!

Restrict what she can see. She won’t be able to tell. Or move over to insta

Ha, I was just thinking about the exact same thing. My mum does this too, but doesn't quite understand sometimes how Facebook works so for example I once commented on a post about a certain district I used to live in in another country and she posted above mine with several kisses. It's like, oh dear mum. She can't help it, on the rare occasion I comment on a friends post or something she just had to chime in and uses my childhood nickname, lots of kisses etc.

Restrict what she can see.

This is why I don't have my mum on facebook. She is a little put out that I won't add her but, honestly, I can't cope with her being able to look back through my facebook and start asking me what I meant by some status I wrote in 2006 when I was at university!

Thanks all. She’s far from lonely, just a bit ott. I have thought about restricting what she sees. I used to do it when I was younger but worried she’ll be suspicious and I would probably have to restrict my siblings too. She’ll always find a way 😭

I shut Facebook down because of it tbh. Uses to get phone calls about statuses. I mean ffs. I don't need a solution just a rant!

My brother-in-law is like this. He's a FB stalker. Example; he 'likes' everything my son's girlfriend posts, even though it was a year before he even met her and then it was for only half an hour. So for one year he like everything she posted, even about her hobby he knows nothing about, her 'insider' jokes with her friends and when she was tagging them. When he started doing my son and she weren't even 'official' - they'd just met, but he got wind of it...

He likes all my posts as well, except the political ones.

I added my mum under duress. I limit her from any posts I don't want her to see.
It does amuse me that my step mother is the first to react (a love heart, always) to anything I ever post though and I know if winds my mum up good and proper
I would change your settings...

Limit which of your posts she can see

If you only use Facebook to talk to people, you can actually delete Facebook and just have the Messenger app instead.

Limit what she can see if your status updates. Or have a separate Facebook account that she won't have access to and set the privacy settings to friends only.

Or delete her as a friend; you don't have to have her as one of your Facebook friends.

Op, I’m probably the only one who feels sorry for your mum.
She sounds lonely, or just wants to ‘like’ every you post ( which you admit isn’t much )
I’d feel terrible blocking my own mum on FB. I’d rather just delete my account.

OP my DM is exactly the same! I’ve had to speak to her a couple of times about sharing things other people put on. I think it’s an age thing - her friends are all the same.

Delete FB, problem solved.