Boyfriend is a pig?

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Was having a nice meal out at a local restaurant with the boyfriend (BF). I said it would be nice to go to his house for a change of scene (he always comes to mine because he house shares). I work from home and I have 2 kittens (who have diarrhoea today) ! so sometimes I need to get out of the house. He said he hadn't changed the sheets on his bed for 2 weeks. I said that's ok, we'll make the bed together. Then he says he's only got one duvet and one sheet because 'he's a man', so he can't change the bed. He's 35 not 25 fgs. I called him a filthy pig and he should be ashamed. I've got 2 kids, 2 indoor kittens and a house and I manage to be clean and have clean bedding. AIBU?

How revolting. So he he called you a dog and you are still with him. Just dump him. I’ll dump him for you! What’s his number??!!

I only have 1 bedset too

I wash it then make the bed again

No intention of using money and space for spare sets

Lovely

What a prize!

Please have some respect for pigs and do not call him that. He is just a filthy man and should now be your ex-boyfriend.

I’d be far more concerned about the fact that he apparently called you a dog. What was all that about?

Re: sheets. I think fortnightly is pretty standard. We only have one bedding set as well...it gets washed and dried in the same day and put back on. What’s wrong with that?

I imagine his bed was clagging and that she shared flat is a midden of shite. That’ll be why he didn’t want you in there.

Surprised people calling him filthy because he's not changed the bed for two weeks. On threads on here plenty of people change their beds fortnightly it not longer and no one insults them, now people are rushing in to hurl abuse at this guy because he's not changed his bed in two weeks

He didn't want you to his place.

Maybe I'm a pig aswell but there is no way I'm changing my sheets every 2 weeks. Also only owning one set is totally fine. Him saying its because he is a man is a massive red flag.

A lot of men are like that , I bet it's way longer than / weeks ! 🤮

2 .. and I mean men that live alone , not All men obvs . They just don't seem to care / can't be bothered .

He didn't want you to go back to his for some reason - possibly because his room is repulsive (I'm guessing that there are no sheets, dirty plates everywhere, overflowing bin, etc) or because there was something he didn't want you to see (evidence that another woman had been there, maybe).

Either way, he wants to have your nice house to go to, where you do all the work and he gets to relax. Meanwhile he thinks it's somehow manly to live in filth. Bin him.

If i changed my sheets fortnightly, itd feel like i only just changed them. Theyd still smell of washing powder. Maybe im just not a sweaty person, but I sleep alone, wear pyjamas and am usually pretty clean and non sweaty, and with 4 beds to change, i dont think i could keep up with fortnightly of all of them on top of all the other laundry.
If somebody actually told me i was a dirty pig for this, to my actual face, id think they were beyond rude and nasty.
Fact is, this has nothing to do with his sheets and everything to do with not wanting you back to his for whatever reason.
If it was honestly just the bedding, he would quickly strip them when you both got there.

Two weeks is not standard. Bedding should be changed each week.

Why should it?

You deserve better op. Your kids deserve a better role model.

Maybe his wife/ live in girlfriend could change them for him 🤔

He is vile and if you ever live together he will do nothing.

Why is your bar set so low a flea could limbo under it

Love it

Two weeks is not standard. Bedding should be changed each week*

Load of bollocks.

Please show me the page in the life handbook that says this, and explain the horrible consequences of not doing so.

People don’t have time for that rubbish

“Two weeks is not standard. Bedding should be changed each week.”

For lots of us it is and says who?

He sounds massively immature, adding this to previous behavior. I don’t get the relationship at all. You’ve got your shit together, he hasn’t. Why are you with him?

Two weeks is not standard. Bedding should be changed each week

One week is not standard. Bedding should be changed each day.

Have you ever been to his? Is it really a house share or is there someone else living with him he doesn't want you to meet?

Changing the bed sheets once a fortnight isn't that bad necessarily. If he hasn't slept in them every night because he's been at your and if he hasn't been shagging in them then they shouldn't be that dirty. I presume he showers daily?
However, he only owns one set of sheets and duvet cover so unlikely that the bedding has been washed for months let alone 2 weeks. He's just disgusting.

I think you should get rid of him. This is going nowhere. You wouldn't want some slob like that moving in with you. Believe me - I know. I had a BF like that 10 years ago and naively thought that when he was out of his cramped house-share room he'd be less of a slob... but no....
Revolting.

One week is not standard. Bedding should be changed each day.

I get up at midnight, 2am, and 4am to change the bedding. Every night. Can't imagine how disgusting your sheets are.

There are numerous reasons to dump him, the frequency of bedding changes is way down the list.

I only have 1 bed but have at least 7 Duvet covers and bottom sheets.