Glorious bitchy moment

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know I am being unreasonable, but I am also having a glorious bitch gloating moment.

Over 10 years ago my DSs father did an up and run. I was fortunate in that I had a good job and could afford to support us both. I didn’t go after child support, until a few years ago when I started getting nasty emails and was confronted by his family in the supermarket....the reason being that apparently I was making unreasonable financial demands and I was financially ruining him.

Now considering at this point I’d never seen a penny, not a single penny of contribution, I even had to send changes of clothes on visits... so I mean not a solitary penny. The man is a habitual liar (another so long a story it’s unreal) - but this really pissed me off to the point I applied for CMS.

It got awarded, it was never paid, it was then reduced to the princely sum of £9 a month, which was also never paid ever........ now to my bitch moment......finally it’s gone to attachment of earnings.... now considering he told everyone that happened to him years ago, and still tells everyone that will listen that I bleed him dry - karma :). It’s not about the money, but it has a sense of what you Reep you sow.

I know I am being unreasonable, and a complete bitch on this, but after decades of dealing with that arsehole - this moment feels quite sweet. There will be an embarrassment of the attachment of earnings at his workplace and an embarrassment of the pittance he actually pays. And as I’m already painted as the bitch & apparently did this years ago - who cares 😂

As someone who's best friend is currently going through this with her exH, YANBU.

I hope he is embarrassed that people where he works will know he tried so hard to get out of financially supporting his child that it has to be taken directly from his wages. Only bad side to this is that you had to push so hard and wait so long to get it!

What a pathetic exuse of man and father. Enjoy your moment Op!!

YANBU OP, enjoy it.

I hope he has to internalise his anger given he’d out himself if he’d told the truth.

My exh told me I’d never get a penny for our two boys, I got an attachment to earnings too.
Thing is I was only wanting a quarter of what I was awarded. Serves him right

This is fabulous! I am going through same currently but it’s all in hand and my day will come. My ex tortures our DS with promises of things and then disappoints him and says ‘you can have it when your mum’s a nicer person’. This awful person (me) has brought our son up single handedly with sweet FA support from him. I look forward to the day he gets his arse handed to him on a plate. Well done OP! 💪

I pray it's back dated.

What a twerp.

Another one hoping it's backdated. What a tosser.

Also hoping it's backdated.

Good for you 👏

It’s not being a bitch.

If he didn’t want to pay for a child, he should of worn a condom or not had sex at all

It doesn’t matter that it’s a small sum, it’s the sodding principle. So many women Simply let men off with this so good for you

Good for you and not U at all.

It's not a bitchy move on your part op. You havent done anything wrong. He deserves to be humiliated in this way through his own actions.
He is a failure to his own responsibilities and now he has to face them.

Good for you. What a pillock.

However if he works for a big employer they won’t think twice about an attachment of earnings, it is quite common, and in any company payroll is (should be) confidential...

Currently going to have to go through this. DSS mother hasn't paid for 2 months. She did it last year just before Christmas and then we got the order.
She hit the roof as they added on 20%.

She talked her way out of it and low and behold she hasn't paid again.

The problem is the arrears then get spread across the year but we've effectively gone how ever many months without the dosh which creates havoc with our cash flow.

I am very pissed off.

Yanbu. I wonder why my ex's along with so many others', was just wiped clean by the government though. That was a lovely letter to receive...not. DD was owed thousands and he actually rang me and said he was going out to celebrate on the morning he received his letter. Oh well. We really would never have seen a penny of it anyway. He'd have quit his job if it came to it.

On the good news front it is backdated to the original claim, it is however the pathetic £9 a month, so not a huge amount of money... it's more the karma

And it's a small family business and he lives in 🤣🤣🤣🤣 and has been pity partying this for years -'oh hell yeah that will be embarrassingly. Rural life has its benefit sometimes 😇😂

@Sagradafamiliar seriously they just wiped it 😱 I must confess that was what I was expecting. I really don't understand how they justify that.

Ps to all of you lovely people, I am feeling far too much of a smug bitch and karma has hit you bastard - to not be unreasonable, but apparently I am perfectly reasonable / which is wonderful.

On the good news front it is backdated to the original claim

Wahoooo!!

It's the little things in life 😂

Yep, they just announced they were writing it off.
I'm really pleased for you though, OP. What a tosser he is!

I hate people who refuse to pay for their kids. Good for you!

Ha get it backdated!