McDonalds every week?

[Butterflyflower1234]

I'm wondering AIBU to think giving children a McDonalds every week is too much?

My DP has three lovely DC and every week he takes them to McDonalds. Usually this is every Monday as he seems them for dinner but he missed it this week so he's taken them to McDonalds tonight 'as they missed out on Monday'.

The DC are coming home tonight so it now means that it's just us eating instead of us all eating together.

I have raised before that it won't harm them not to have a McDonalds every week but because they are used to it, they now expect it every week.

I think this is a classic Disney Dad move but of course I can't say too much as I'm not a parent. I just wondered what peoples opinions are?

@chuck7 do you have nothing better to do than watch dads in macdonalds? Christ.

Meh its a bit of McDonalds. You have to be quite bored to over think why a parent might be there. After school activity - quick meal. All day shopping trip - stopped off for a burger. Cant be bothered to cook because you spent all week doing just that - have a fucking happy meal

I take my 3&5 year old ever Friday after swimming lessons , they don't come out pool till 6pm, quick Mac D then home to bed

Suits me and they love it. To them Macdonald is a treat.

And what about the hundreds of mums in McDonald’s everyday Chuck7 guess they are lazy and can’t be arsed to cook for there dc too 🤷🏻‍♀️ Or maybe as they have a vagina it’s somehow ok they aren’t cooking for the dc......

Nah some how I manage not to judge the mother’s considering 99% of the time the time when a relationship breaks down and one parent has to pick up the pieces, it’s the mother. Hats off to them. And I only go into McDonalds a few times year so not too much of my time is spent judging feckless fathers, don’t worry.

It is quite often, but meh, if they enjoy it and it's something he enjoys doing with them, then I really wouldn't worry about it. Bit harsh to call him a Disney dad for it, unless there's a backstory you haven't enlightened us with?

Why does taking your kids to mcdonalds make you feckless?

I didn’t say it did.

It only makes you Feckless if your a man apparently, if you are a women you can feed your dc fast food and it’s fine. Not sure how that works but according to the above poster it does.

Well you pretty much did.

All you know about these men you watch is that they at least once taken their children to eat at mcds.

And yet you label them as feckless based on your very limited knowledge about them?

Sorry if this has been brought up already but, it's not really fair on their mum. If she wants to treat them she may feel she can't as they're already having McDonald's weekly. Or she may not have time and a fast food meal would be ideal once a week as if she is resident parent she is likely busier. Plus, she also gets labelled the boring mum who makes us eat healthy vs the fun disney dad who lets us eat McDonald's.

I take DS once a week as we dont get home between school and his climbing club. He eats healthily in between

Oh give over water not fair on their mum

the habits of “plenty of people” on this post must be linked to the majority of people being overweight or obese.
I agree with this. V
I think if you are going once a week to Macdonald’s (or getting a takeaway or whatever), it stops being so much of a treat and it’s just routine.

I wonder what their mum is feeding them? How many meals is he responsible for and how many is she responsible? Out of his meals, are the rest of them, more nutritious and involve vegetables?

Of course a Macdonald’s isn’t the end of the world, but i think it is quite lazy to be going every week if there are other alternatives (ie cooking a proper dinner).

Yawn. You act like you are oblivious to the kind of father I'm talking about but we all know/know of them and if you don't you live a pretty sheltered life. A McDonald's a week doesn't make you feckless parent. A Disney dad is feckless. And no I don't see this in every father I see in mcdonalds. My children's father takes the kids to mcdonalds without me. I don't worry about what others think if they spot him without a woman in tow😂

Carry on to argue for arguments sake but they exist.

But you seem to be able to determine whos a disney dad on a glance?

I know Disney dads exist, i also know very judgy nasty women with no hobbies exist as well.

I'm so busy with hobbies I don't have time to sit in mcdonalds, I drive through, but your concern is appreciated.

YABU.

1. It's his business really, isn't it?
2. No, McDonald's once a week is not that much and not a big deal, and not an issue health-wise. There are many kids who have it far more frequently.
3. Nutritionally it's not that bad, so where does the McD shaming come from I wonder? Seems to be a big class thing in England, too try to shame people over food choices that really aren't a big deal.

Macdonalds every week for dinner because he can’t be arsed to cook is ridiculous. MacDonalds shouldn’t become part of any child’s routine - you need to plan around existing activities. DH or I make an early tea for DN before swimming and afterwards will get a home made sandwich (usually left over veg curry on cheese and salad inside wholemeal rotis) to beat the munchies. DH I plan dinner around other late activities.

I think it’s different if MacDonalds is planned in advance as part of your weekend routine (perhaps as breakfast as it tends to be healthier) because then you can genuinely arrange meals to make the day healthier and you can teach them how to incorporate junk into a healthy diet. But he’s not really doing that - he’s taking kids raised on junk already and adding more to the mix!

*shouldn’t be part of the child’s weeknightly dinner routine

@chuck7 ah right so you observe all that from your car never heard so much shit in my life

Nope. From the few times a year I go in. I avoid at all costs. Probably to avoid people like you.

Wow..... people like me?

Care to elaborate?

Bollykecks what do I need to "give over"? Can you not see how it would be annoying to be the only parent providing nutritious meals? (If that is indeed what's happening in this case). I know a few women who are resident parents. Their ex's only feed fast food to the kids as they "can't cook". It means they can't treat their children to tea out. And it means they get the "daddy doesn't make me eat vegetables" as well as the "daddy doesn't make me do my homework" etc.