Minor thing really but it's left me feeling ridiculously annoyed. A friend of mine (she's 10 years younger than me) persuaded me to buy a £30 ticket for a charity event in which several people I vaguely know are performing. They are my friend's mates, not mine. I've met some of them but don't really know them. The performance is being held in a city 60 miles away so I said I'd drive us there and back.
When the tickets came through it was a surprise to see that the whole event would be over by 8.30pm. We'd both assumed it would be a full evening of entertainment. She has arranged to go for drinks and food afterwards with the friends who are performing and will get a lift home with someone else. I was slightly stung by the fact that I hadn't been asked to go for a drink afterwards but they are mates and they don't know me and I'm quite a lot older than some of them so why would they invite me?
Now I've been contacted by one of those who'll be performing, a woman I've only met in passing, who has asked me to run her grandmother back home after the event. The grandmother lives halfway between the city where the event is being held and my home town. Gran clearly hasn't been invited for drinks either. It'll involve a detour of maybe 15 miles. Five minutes after that first message my friend, the one who got me into this, called to say she was sure I wouldn't mind taking Gran home.
I often give people lifts so I'm not sure why I mind so much on this occasion – but I do. Perhaps it's the hint of ageism: I'm too old to be welcome to the celebratory drinks but I can chauffeur Gran around. I'm sure, by the way, that Gran and I will get on fine – but AIBU to feel that I'm really not being given a chance to say no?
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thatdamnwoman · 28/11/2019 21:36
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