To be upset he didn't comment on my hair?

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My DP always asks me to dye my hair back to red as he likes it best that way. I have had several colours and styles and everytime I go to the hairdresser he says to get it red. It is boob length and thick so lots of it!

Well today I did get it red (from blonde). We had a snap chat conversation and 10 photos into the conversation he still hadn't mentioned it.

So I said I was quite upset as it just shows exactly how much attention he pays to me that he could look at 10 pictures and not even notice I had coloured my hair. Specifically the colour he bangs on about all the time. It's not like a few highlights here.

He told me to grow up.

So AIBU to think he should have noticed?

Things aren't great between us at the moment so it just feels like another blow.

your last sentence speaks volumes and the fact he told you to grow up.
he sounds like bit of a knob tbh. have your hair how YOU want it, and he can do one.

Why wasn't your first question when you spoke 'do you like my hair', if it's such a 'thing' between you? You don't ask, you don't get. Expecting people to notice stuff you're excited about usually leads to disappointment IME. They're just not as excited/invested as you are usually in whatever it is. So just prompt them.

Yeah of course you should have to prompt your significant other when you've changed something so significant to both of you

YANBU.

Surley he shouldn't need promoting. I notice when he has his hair cut and he literally gets the same style every time.

If I had put a picture on Facebook you can guarantee he would have been the first to comment on it. Marking his territory.

women are from venus, men are from mars, for a reason, they need mners to organise things, tell them what to do etc.it's always the same on here, you could walk naked down the street with dh but some won't notice.

But chilly for walking naked down the street so I will have to take your word on that .

Ungrateful git. He could've thrown some heart eyes at you at least😑

I’m more perturbed that you dye your hair to please him!

Honestly feel a bit sorry for @CSIblonde that her expectations in a relationship are so low.

I hated it blonde so was going darker anyway and I do like it red, it's the maintenance that puts me off. To be honest it is the whole dying it for a man that has made me hold off so long, I have had it red lots of times in the past.

Heart eyes would have been great.

😍 I'm sure it's lovely OP.

Aww thanks I like it anyway and that's the main thing!

@Actualhornist. I didn't say it was my experience. The partners I've had/have were great at mutual compliments & showing interest generally in me & my 'stuff'. I've just noticed a lot of people expect others to notice everything they're excited about, then get upset when they dont. Some people, not just men, genuinely don't notice stuff until you say 'have you noticed..' . (like when there's an atmosphere in a room & it's awful, then you leave & your companion says I didn't notice anything). .

I think it is very noticeable. If I had a few highlights or some layers cut in then I would understand. He always goes on about having it red again. Even if he didn't like it he could have lied.

It looks fab!

😍😍 you look amazing! I love it.. helps you're naturally pretty as well

Oh OP, you look gorgeous but please ask MNHQ to remove your photo as people you know might be on here. It’s perfectly right to use us as a sounding board, but it’s best to not be recognised in real life.

Thanks, see my point though, it is different isn't it

I don't mind if I get recognised, I name change often and post mostly light hearted stuff.

Your DP is an idiot. He should appreciate you more.

Ps... Your hair sounds amazing!

Anyone who has conversations with their DP on Snapchat should grow up, but that aside he genuinely may not have noticed on live because roots were quite dark (in a good way).

I would just think he was focusing on what I was saying, y'know the person I am rather than just how I look. But that's the stage I am in my relationship.

Your DP is a moron.

Very clear difference and even more of a twonk for telling you to grow up after he made such a fuss about you changing it.

It looks lovely 😍😍 and what lovely defined cheek bones you have!

I was fully prepared to say YABU but reading the conversation you had I don’t think you are. He was being a nob, of course he bloody noticed it’s a totally different colour! Wouldn’t have killed him to say it looks nice. It looks lovely by the way