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Parking one. With diagram.

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NameChangedForTheDay · 27/11/2019 09:49

Okay. So lived in my street about ten years. Neighbours opposite about the same length of time and are very lovely. All the neighbours are lovely in fact, and considerate.

Recently a car has been parked outside my house on some days. Which doesn't bother me, I don't own the spot outside my house and have a driveway like the rest of my street. However the way they park is causing a small issue.

Last week I came home to see the person who had parked outside mine walk off, out of the street. I didn't recognise them.

The issue I have is they park in a manner which means when I come home, I can't turn into my drive easily. They park fairly close to the edge of my drive, so I have to over compensate and swing my car in a bit, but at totally the wrong angle and have to reverse out and straighten up and pull back in again.

This is as opposed to just turning off my street and straight into my drive in one move when the other car isn't parked there.

This pulling in and out is also sometimes problematic as there's cars parked outside next doors' that can reduce visibility.

Later when I'm wanting to leave, I have to reverse out a bit, change angle and move forward and then back out again onto the road. Again, as opposed to just reversing out and pulling away in two swift moves.

It may not seem an inconvenience, but I come home at lunch every day to let my dogs out and feed them and literally have 30 minutes to sort them out, grab myself some lunch, give them some fuss and get back to work. So a few extra minutes faffing either side of getting home and leaving knocks time off how long I have at lunch.

I saw my neighbour a couple of weeks ago and mentioned the awkward parking and said I wondered who's car it was. They piped up and said it was their DIL. She parks there and walks to the train station to avoid paying to park there. She doesn't live with my neighbours, she lives elsewhere in the town.

Neighbour said they'd ask DIL to move her car back a little bit so as to make life easier. Great stuff.

Sadly nothing changed. Assumed maybe neighbour forgot to mention it to her. Last night I got in from work to see DIL returning from train station to car and I asked if her FIL had spoken to her. She said yes. So I said, is that okay, to move your car back a little bit next time please.

She said she's not wanting to park on the junction. I said I didn't want, or expect her to, I just wanted her to move her car back by just a foot to give me clearance to enter my drive easily.

She shrugged and said it's a public road and she can park where she likes!

Yes, it is a public road, but for the sake of your in-laws' neighbourly relations you'd surely move your car back a foot?

AIBU? How would you broach it now, if at all?

Parking one. With diagram.
OP posts:
Disfordarkchocolate · 27/11/2019 09:54

I'd get someone to park outside my house for a few days but I'm fairly arsey.

Strangerthingshere · 27/11/2019 09:56

I wouldn't use my drive, I'd take her space on the road. But I'm also an arse

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 27/11/2019 09:56

Go back to your neighbours and tell them what she said. Yes, it might be a bit awkward but she was rude. You're only asking her to adjust her parking slightly so that you can get in and out easily.

Point out that she's saving money by not paying to park at the station, so she could at least be considerate of the people that actually live on your road.

Chocmallows · 27/11/2019 09:56

First speak to your neighbour and ask if he can have another word. Don't moan and go on, just ask very seriously and concisely and wait for a reply.

Failing this working, do you know any other neighbours or friends that can park there. Perhaps have a bike they could leave there for a few days - break her habit of using the space?

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 27/11/2019 09:57

Haha ignore my suggestion, @Disfordarkchocolate and @Strangerthingshere have much better ideas!

FenellaVelour · 27/11/2019 09:57

I’d also park on the road. Two can play the arsey game.

spacepyramid · 27/11/2019 09:57

Buy some penguin bollards? Grin

I'd be pissed off too, she's not being that reasonable.

justilou1 · 27/11/2019 10:01

Definitely tell them DIL is a rude piece of work. (And park your car there.)

NoSauce · 27/11/2019 10:02

Bloody hell this would wind me up. Park in the spot if you can. Or could you put your bins there?

Seeline · 27/11/2019 10:02

I'd reverse into my drive and drive out forwards - much safer in any case.

WorkingItOutAsIGo · 27/11/2019 10:03

Park on your neighbours’ drive instead.

But also you should be reversing into your drive, not off it.

drinkygin · 27/11/2019 10:04

Cheeky cow. I’d tell your neighbours she was rude and that I’d be parking on the road from now on. And I would. Is there any reason she can’t park outside their house?

NameChangedForTheDay · 27/11/2019 10:05

Thanks all. Was worried I was BU as it's an inconvenience rather than a massive issue.

I'd rather not park there, or ask someone else to, as my car got pranged out on main road the other month and the shitbag didn't leave a note.

I just find DIL's attitude very entitled. She's saving £10 a day parking outside my house and I've been polite. As I say, neighbours are nice, but I don't want this turning into a row.

OP posts:
zebra22 · 27/11/2019 10:06

I’d park my car in that spot so she can’t

NoSauce · 27/11/2019 10:06

Can you put your wheelie bins there??

NameChangedForTheDay · 27/11/2019 10:09

Reversing into my own drive isn't feasible as the driver's door would be against the houses brick wall. It's quite narrow.

She wouldn't park outside neighbour's as all the cars in the close that park on the road park on the left hand side of the road. Plus it would be in a sort of blind spot too.

OP posts:
NameChangedForTheDay · 27/11/2019 10:10

We don't have wheelie bins in our town. Plus I wouldn't want to be one of THOSE neighbours. Grin

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UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 27/11/2019 10:10

Don't talk to the neighbours about it again, it's not their fault or their responsibility!

LoudBatPerson · 27/11/2019 10:11

Can you not reverse in to your driver instead so you are coming into your driver from the opposite side to where she is parked. You should really be reversing in and pulling out forwards anyway.

You are free to ask her not to park there but she is under no obligation not to. It might be a bit annoying for you but you cannot really do anything.

TheOrigFV45 · 27/11/2019 10:11

I don't think you should be reversing out of your drive onto the road.
So if you reverse into your drive - 1) It will be an easier manoeuvre
2) it won't matter that DIL's car is there and 3) it'll be easier and safer when leaving.

Just rise above it, otherwise it's going to eat you up.

DIL was rude though.

NoSauce · 27/11/2019 10:12

I would go and tell her PILs what she said to you then. They won’t want to fall out with you OP. Hopefully they’ll tell madam to stop being a dick.

TheReluctantCountess · 27/11/2019 10:13

Chances are that your car won’t get damaged parked on the road outside your house. I’d just park there for a while.

NoSauce · 27/11/2019 10:14

Yes, I would park there too.

NameChangedForTheDay · 27/11/2019 10:14

As stated above. I can't reverse into drive as I can't open driver's door.

I'm not reversing out of drive into a main road either. It's a small close. :)

OP posts:
TheOrigFV45 · 27/11/2019 10:15

Reversing into my own drive isn't feasible as the driver's door would be against the houses brick wall. It's quite narrow.

So when you drive in forwards the driver door goes beyond the wall?
Is it not the same on the otherside? I'm a bit confused by this.

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