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Parking one. With diagram.

71 replies

NameChangedForTheDay · 27/11/2019 09:49

Okay. So lived in my street about ten years. Neighbours opposite about the same length of time and are very lovely. All the neighbours are lovely in fact, and considerate.

Recently a car has been parked outside my house on some days. Which doesn't bother me, I don't own the spot outside my house and have a driveway like the rest of my street. However the way they park is causing a small issue.

Last week I came home to see the person who had parked outside mine walk off, out of the street. I didn't recognise them.

The issue I have is they park in a manner which means when I come home, I can't turn into my drive easily. They park fairly close to the edge of my drive, so I have to over compensate and swing my car in a bit, but at totally the wrong angle and have to reverse out and straighten up and pull back in again.

This is as opposed to just turning off my street and straight into my drive in one move when the other car isn't parked there.

This pulling in and out is also sometimes problematic as there's cars parked outside next doors' that can reduce visibility.

Later when I'm wanting to leave, I have to reverse out a bit, change angle and move forward and then back out again onto the road. Again, as opposed to just reversing out and pulling away in two swift moves.

It may not seem an inconvenience, but I come home at lunch every day to let my dogs out and feed them and literally have 30 minutes to sort them out, grab myself some lunch, give them some fuss and get back to work. So a few extra minutes faffing either side of getting home and leaving knocks time off how long I have at lunch.

I saw my neighbour a couple of weeks ago and mentioned the awkward parking and said I wondered who's car it was. They piped up and said it was their DIL. She parks there and walks to the train station to avoid paying to park there. She doesn't live with my neighbours, she lives elsewhere in the town.

Neighbour said they'd ask DIL to move her car back a little bit so as to make life easier. Great stuff.

Sadly nothing changed. Assumed maybe neighbour forgot to mention it to her. Last night I got in from work to see DIL returning from train station to car and I asked if her FIL had spoken to her. She said yes. So I said, is that okay, to move your car back a little bit next time please.

She said she's not wanting to park on the junction. I said I didn't want, or expect her to, I just wanted her to move her car back by just a foot to give me clearance to enter my drive easily.

She shrugged and said it's a public road and she can park where she likes!

Yes, it is a public road, but for the sake of your in-laws' neighbourly relations you'd surely move your car back a foot?

AIBU? How would you broach it now, if at all?

Parking one. With diagram.
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supercee · 27/11/2019 11:12

OP has already stated what she's probably going to do...

Well based on replies @Doormat247 I might park in that spot just on the mornings she's due (once I've worked them out), she goes to train station before I leave to go to work.

And she's already explained why she can't reverse...

SunshineAngel · 27/11/2019 11:17

I would certainly park on the street to stop her parking there. I don't mind people parking outside my house (indeed, I can't stop them even if I did), but to make it difficult for you to get on your own drive, when she knows it's a problem and doesn't even live there, is ridiculous IMO.

Stupiddriver1 · 27/11/2019 11:19

Is the road wide enough for two cars to pass side by side?

Because if so I don’t really see the problem. I have a drive and people are constantly parked right up the edges of it on both sides of the road. I manage to get in and out ok.

Yes it would be nicer, easier, slightly faster if I could pull out at a better angle but I’m certainly not reversing, straightening up, spending a few minutes faffing about.

If there’s space for her to move down a foot it two yes it would be nice if she did and most people would but sounds like she’s worried about the junction/bend.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 27/11/2019 11:21

The birdseed on the roof is your friend here .
Just scatter and handful, deftly , and let the feathered friends get to work.

I had to park my car under a tree near my DParents (overflow parking) it looked like Mr Blobby [shock}
and I had to wash the windscreen to make it safe.

So it can be passed off as an Act of God, won't damage the car providing she washes it off but will cause inconvenience !

IHateBlueLights · 27/11/2019 11:23

Another vote for parking there yourself.

GinDaddy · 27/11/2019 11:27

Hasn't OP already stated she refuses to park on the road due to her car having been hit before, and someone driving off without leaving a note? Or am I missing something here...

GiveHerHellFromUs · 27/11/2019 11:29

@GinDaddy yeah but then she also said she will park there herself

GinDaddy · 27/11/2019 11:31

indeed - my bad thank you!

foamrolling · 27/11/2019 11:33

Honestly, if cars are pranged so often on your road then you might as well let this play out. Her car will soon get pranged and someone will tell her it's a regular problem there, forcing her to find somewhere else.

NameChangedForTheDay · 27/11/2019 11:36

Not sure why folk are saying I'm not following any suggestions. I said in a PP a couple of things I'm going to do.

Appreciate the suggestions.

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NameChangedForTheDay · 27/11/2019 11:39

@supercee thank you!

@Stupiddriver1 road is only two cars wide. If anyone parks outside my house the bun trick struggles to get past.

If I park Infront of my drive, I block three neighbours.

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Wattagoose90 · 27/11/2019 11:43

I'd totally have a word with the neighbours again and politely say you were taken aback by her reaction and could they have another word as it might be better received. Hopefully it'll embarrass her to have her PIL have to speak with her again.

Failing that I also vote park there yourself. Or buy some cheap cones.

I've got the same issue with both neighbours opposite me. They don't park directly in front of my drive but either side, so I can't reverse in or drive forwards without completing a 12 point turn. I parked opposite "their spot" yesterday so some workmen could use my driveway. The moment I put my car back on the drive they actually moved their car out of their drive and into "their space". Absolutely grinds on me so think I'll park there more often now to prove a point that they don't own it.

NameChangedForTheDay · 27/11/2019 11:47

Bin truck. Not bun trick!

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BlouseAndSkirt · 27/11/2019 12:28

She will just move a bin or cones, as she is entitled to do.

DarnTooting · 27/11/2019 13:07

How has no one suggested a fifty quid banger? Tax and mot aren't that much if you don't go anywhere....

I'd honestly speak to your neighbours again in a passive aggressive manner and then lobby the council for parking bays

Myshinynewname · 27/11/2019 13:21

I’ve just looked at your diagram. When you are pulling out of your drive could you reverse straight into your neighbours drive (the one whose DIL is a rude cow parking outside your house) then turn out forwards into your road? It would be easier than a 3 point turn in and out. It would also give you the opportunity to mention to your neighbours that their DIL was rude to you and refuses to move her car without having to moan at them.

LavaMagma · 27/11/2019 14:00

Just park there on the days she usually does, she'll soon get the message.

NameChangedForTheDay · 27/11/2019 14:02

@Myshinynewname the PIL's are still parked on their drive when she parks up early.

Loving the banger idea @DarnTooting.

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Gangrenethatmightwork · 27/11/2019 14:16

Do you need to hire a skip for a month?

NoSauce · 27/11/2019 14:19

The skip is a good idea. A tad extreme and rather expensive but would stop her parking there for a while. Until it was removed 🤪

JasonPollack · 27/11/2019 16:11

Leave your dog shit bags on her door handles until she gets the message Grin

Rude fucking bitch.

I might have another word with your neighbours before going nuclear though.

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