To move to New York?

[ThePriceOfSugar]

I have a big decision to make soon and would appreciate advice!

My boyfriend of 10 months just accepted a great job in New York. He wants me to come with him. We live in New Zealand now.

I'm not sure whether to go or break up. On one hand, I would probably be able to find a job; he has a high salary there and will support me if need be; I absolutely love the city and wanted to end up there anyway; I'm young with no ties and a master's degree.

On the other, I don't love him I just like him, while he loves me; I have a really good job here in NZ; I don't like the idea of relying on him; and we have a big age gap (22 and 36).

Would I be unreasonable / reckless to go? Or missing an opportunity if I stay?

If you don’t love him (and even worse you know he loves you) you shouldn’t be stringing him along in this relationship fullstop.
If you want to end up in NY do that separately.

It's only been 10 months so still early days imo. Some people fall in love easily and others take longer. If otherwise you have a happy relationship I would not rule out a move but would give the relationship another 4-5 months and then make a decision. You have time and he's not dependent on you to go.

You don't love him, so don't go!

I moved back to my shitty hometown for DH, I wouldn't even have questioned moving to NY with him at your age.

Let him move on.

you say it’s too soon to marry him. YOU DONT LOVE HIM