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To not want 19 year old daughter to get car on pcp

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Applepea1 · 26/11/2019 14:51

So my daughter who rejected her place at university this year, works as a hairdresser junior and has a car now wants to get a newer car with personal credit. Amazingly she can as if she doesn't pay I suppose they just reclaim the car. She's refused to pay any rent which caused no end of arguments but is now paying her car insurance (already £80 monthly) and her phone herself. She's hardly here and doesn't eat much so I gave up on that one. Anyway she says the car will help her be more responsible with money as at the moment she's just spending it on nothing. (takeaway food, alcohol and drugs mainly) I've told her I don't think it's a good idea, especially as she says she still wants to go to university next year (but I can't see it happening) but I can never stop her doing anything and as she keeps saying she's an adult she can do what she likes. She now is getting excited about the new cars and wants me to go with her to look. Her car did cost over £500 to get through the Mot this year so I accept that may be a drama waiting to happen. My partner is not her dad and is very disapproving of this and everything she's done recently.

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CupoTeap · 26/11/2019 18:12

If she can buy a car she can pay rent, unless she's planning on living unit.

CupoTeap · 26/11/2019 18:12

*in it

Beebumble2 · 26/11/2019 20:40

If you don’t want to or can’t make her leave, then anything she doesn’t pay for she doesn’t get. No food, no washing, no electricity in her room ( remove bulbs, electrician to isolate sockets. Limit the Internet to your needs by changing the password. Turn off central heating when you’re not there or in bed.
If she has a tantrum, walk out of the room or learn to stonewall her.
I realise none of this is pleasant, but it’s about time you took control of your home and life. As she said she’s an adult and should be responsible for herself.

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