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To say 9.40pm is too late for week night cinema

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BuildBuildings · 26/11/2019 11:52

This so petty but its annoyed me. Me and my partner were talking just now about going to the cinema this evening (we have limitless passes) I said well xx film is on at stupid times so let's see y film. He said well what are stupid times?

The times are 4.30pm so before we finish work and 9.40pm. He said he'd looked and though they were all OK times. Then was just a bit of an awkward dick about it. AIBU to think 9.40pm is clearly too fucking late to see a film. Bearing in mind I start work at 8 am and have an hour commute. I'd also just said this morning that I'm feeling really knackered lately and wonder if some medication I'm on needs tweaking. I have various health issues none massively serious. The film probably wouldn't get out till 11.30 at the earliest, then we'd have to drive home.

I'm aware this is probably a non issue I just really hate it when he obviously doesn't think things through and then does that awkward I have no idea why this wouldn't work thing! I feel like it's something men do when you point out their stupidly.

Sorry rant over.

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Original poster
BuildBuildings · 26/11/2019 12:37

I do say in my op I dart at 8am not up at 8am that's a totally different thing!

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woodchuck99 · 26/11/2019 12:41

I do say in my op I dart at 8am not up at 8am that's a totally different thing!

You could probably get up at 6.30 though if you don't leave the house till seven. That would mean you would still get 6 1/2 hours sleep which should be fine for some people. It may not be for you which is fine but I don't see why you're so outraged by his suggestion that it's not that late. He perhaps would have no problem if the situation had been reversed.

Wildthyme · 26/11/2019 12:43

God, go and see it when you don't have work the next day. It's not that difficult.

Tbh, if I were your partner I'd probably just go with a friend but then you'd be back on here bitching about that too.

fit4more · 26/11/2019 12:43

YANBU but it’s not a big deal enough to have a cow over

CalamityJune · 26/11/2019 12:45

As a one off, and something I really wanted to see I'd be ok with it. Otherwise probably not worth the effort.

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BuildBuildings · 26/11/2019 12:46

It's ok I'm over it now! I don't think I was being unreasonable to think it's too late but not worth having a cow over! Wink

Also if I could get up at 6.30 to leave at 7 I would!

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MistyCloud · 26/11/2019 12:52

@BuildBuildings

YANBU, and a film starting at 9.40pm (at the cinema) is a bit late for a work night. You wouldn't be in til midnight. (Or later.)

Having said that, you don't speak very favourably of your partner. Are you sure you will be compatible long-term? It sounds like you don't like him very much to be honest. Calling him stupid, and generally being very scornful about men.

Comefromaway · 26/11/2019 13:07

Also if I could get up at 6.30 to leave at 7 I would!

Unless there is something else such as kids to get ready or elderly parents to see to in the morning of course you could if you put your mind to it.

I have to leave the house at 8.30am to get to work for 9am. On non school days when I don't have to give ds a lift I get up at 8am.

woodchuck99 · 26/11/2019 13:14

Also if I could get up at 6.30 to leave at 7 I would!

Many people could do that easily. Maybe you can't but why should your partner realise that? It's a bit ironic that you are accusing him of not thinking things through when I you don't seem to do that either.

SomeoneInTheLaaaaaounge · 26/11/2019 13:15

I wouldn’t even do 9.40 on a weekend. It’s WAAY WAAY too late.

AryaStarkWolf · 26/11/2019 13:18

Be too late for me anyway 8:30pm start is the very latest I'd go mid week

Whattodoabout · 26/11/2019 13:21

I wouldn’t do this during the week either. I have been to weekday gigs before and suffered enormously the next day at work. The gigs were worth it though, you can see that film any time.

Crunchymum · 26/11/2019 13:24

Go at the weekend?

iswhois · 26/11/2019 13:26

It does sound late but for a one off won't do any harm

LifeSpectator · 26/11/2019 13:42

if its the new star wars movie my oh would happily go at midnight no matter whats on the next day, if its a movie id like than anything after 9 on a work night would be way too late.

thihnk thats more the issue here isnt it?

AppropriateAdult · 26/11/2019 13:52

But surely it’s a matter of preference, rather than something with a definitive answer? It doesn’t make either of you ‘stupid’. I’m not sure why anyone would get worked up about this, unless he’s really being a dick when you tell him it’s too late for you.

gamerchick · 26/11/2019 14:16

Good grief some of these posts Hmm

It doesn't matter what we think, if it's too late for you then it's too late OP. I certainly wouldn't go that late.... Even on a weekend. Just no.

OhHellllooooo · 26/11/2019 14:22

I'm up at 6am everyday with baby (after usually being up twice/three times during night), get baby ready for nursery, leave at 7am, then commute to work for an hour.

I've been to cinema at 9.30 several times... just not every night of the week. As a once off I wouldn't mind at all

charm8ed · 26/11/2019 14:24

It’s too late for me, I’ve tried that time and got really bad restless leg syndrome, I couldn’t get comfortable as I was so fidgety and my body literally felt as if it was shutting down.

RealBecca · 26/11/2019 14:25

If you feel knackered then yanbu and he shouldn't push you to go.

But if he really wanted to see the film then as a one off id say go as its nice to break the daily grind a bit

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BuildBuildings · 26/11/2019 14:27

@woodchuck99 what am I not thinking through? My partnwr sleeps next to me. Has done for 15 years and all of the time I've had this job. So I suppose that's why he should realise?

Question for people who set their alarm for 30 mins befor you need to leave. Do you shower, wash hair, dry hair and do make up (v light) in addition to getting dressed and eating/drinking? I have very fine hair and it's gross if I don't wash it daily. Also I would feel clean going to work without a shower in the morning. But either way my partner knows when I get up.

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megletthesecond · 26/11/2019 14:29

Yanbu.
The trailers will be 20 mins so the film won't even start until 10. Sod that.

jay55 · 26/11/2019 14:31

I don't wash my hair in the morning or wear makeup but still need 45mins to get ready and out the door.

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BuildBuildings · 26/11/2019 15:13

@jay55 ok that makes me feel like less of a slow coach!

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woodchuck99 · 26/11/2019 15:58

what am I not thinking through? My partnwr sleeps next to me. Has done for 15 years and all of the time I've had this job. So I suppose that's why he should realise?

Why should he realise that you can't get up half-an-hour before you leave the house though. I realise that you don't but that doesn't mean you can't. Why should he realise that you wouldn't be fine if you slept from midnight to 6:30 once in a while?