Who is BU with their reasons for possibly moving locations?

[sacred92]

NC for this.

I'm from Manchester, been living in west London for 10 years, met my husband 5 years ago, we are married with a 20 month old dd.

DH has been offered a promotion in Manchester.
I think it's a great decision to take it as here are my reasons.

• I won't feel isolated (I don't socialise with anyone except the tortured weekly visit to his mum and dad, my friends are all working and at different stages and sort of ghosted me since becoming a sahm)

• Dd will have so much family around her, my side, and also dh brother and sister live in Manchester too, so all her cousins are there

• more money, better quality of living etc (we currently live in a 1 bed cluster house with no garden)

• I just think it be a better quality of life.

DH reasons.

• I will miss my mum and dad
• I will miss my best friend (he spends every night with his friend after work (they work together) so I see him for half hour a day.
• I will miss seeing my mum and dad on my day off (the only day off he has, we spend at their house)
• I don't want DD to have a Manchester accent????????
• It's too "villagey"
• London has better opportunities and if you start working when DD goes school then we can afford to buy a house potentially and have a better life down here.
• don't want to get trapped in a life in Manchester?

Can you lovely honest people help me out?

Sorry I am trying to reply to everyone, he finished work early tonight, 4pm. And he's come home and sat on the sofa and fell asleep!!! Complaining he's got a cold! And considering our living room is no bigger than the average dining room, I've had to bring dd upstairs to entertain her.

He's home at 23:30 every night?? I would be long asleep by then if I was you. It sounds like his real marriage is to his best friend

Did he apply for the promotion or was he head-hunted for it?

Does he ever spend time with his DD?

As good as your reasons are, it seems unlikely to convince him as you and DD are not the most important people in his life.

Time to consider if you would prefer to continue living as you are in London or move just yourself and DD to Manchester

I think you should move to Manchester and leave him with his BFF and parents. He sounds like an idiot!!!