To think that it's easy to look immaculate, be super organised and have a show home if you've got lots of money?

[Prinny1]

An acquaintance of mine is always lauded by others in our social circle as being so organised, immaculately presented with immaculate kids and a show home for a house, as if she is some kind of super human goddess.

When in reality she, and others I've known that are similar to her, all have plenty of money.

It's easy to be organised when you don't have to do any cleaning as you have a cleaner. And you have a part time nanny to look after the kids.

It's easy to hold amazing dinner parties when you hire a chef to cook the food for the party.

It's easy to look immaculate when you have a large budget for hair, beauty treatments, personal trainers and clothes.

It just annoys me a bit that this woman is totally put on a pedestal as being amazing when it's all down to money really as she married someone wealthy. She only has to put something very mundane on social media such as taking the kids to the park and everyone comments saying what an inspiration she is and how lucky her kids are.

She is currently packing for a holiday that they are going on in a few weeks and keeps posting about it, to be told how amazing and organised she is. But surely it's easy to be organised and get packed early when you just buy a total new holiday wardrobe each time you go away; all you have to do is chuck the clothes in the case?!

It would definitely be easier, but not necessarily easy - the people I know with immaculate homes never stop tidying / cleaning / sorting / are ruthless at chucking stuff away. And I can't be arsed with beauty treatments and wouldn't be no matter how much cash I had (although maybe if she doesn't work she needs things to fill the time).

Unless you have a cleaner every day I think it’s pretty hard to have a tidy house with kids tbh ...

To an extent. But you do have to care first (and in regards to looking good you must at the very least not be ugly to start with). If I had lots of money I wouldn’t be particularly organised (I already end up buying lots of stuff on holiday for example, if I had money to throw around I just would pack at all). I also would definitely not have a show home house, firstly that is not my taste, secondly DH is far far far too messy for even a full time house keeper to keep up with. With regards to looks, I supposed I’d look a bit better (more expensive clothes and better skincare etc) but I already look better than most people so it doesn’t mean much.

You sound hurt, bitter and jealous. I think it's unhealthy to stay in that circle if that's how you feel.

I think it’s easier to [insert whatever it is you want to do] if you have loads of money.

Someone who packs for a holiday for several weeks possibly doesn’t have much else going on, so whilst she may seem like she has it all, she might be desperately sad and lonely.

YABU for being resentful - comparison is the thief of joy, although I do agree that it’s easier to be organised when you are comfortably off but what’s the point in holding it against her.

She IBU for posting photos of packing 💤

The saddo sycophants fawning over her on social media ABVU

Sounds like you know a lot of put upon women @GrumpyHoonMain

Fuck would I be cleaning into the night

Money doesn't buy class

and money doesn't buy style

You are just too jealous to realise that whilst money will help, it's only a small part of everything.

If you relative really buys an entire new wardrobe for the entire family every time they go on holiday, she must be VERY organised

Depends how much time you've got surely?

If you're working long hours to get the money, have kids, are a single parent, for example, then it's time that you need for that stuff.

I also don't get why you are so fused. If she has a nice life think lucky for her and move on? There's always someone with more/ better etc no point dwelling on it imo

So she's new money. Old money where I grew up are scatty, ever so slightly eccentric (quite bonkers) drive knackered cars, wear M&S & have cluttered farmhouses or 4storey Georgian/Victorian double fronted. Covered in dog hair. I'm skint, studying & working & very tidy organised, my flat is beautiful & I'm well turned out (so I'm told).

So she's new money. Old money where I grew up are scatty, ever so slightly eccentric (quite bonkers) drive knackered cars, wear M&S & have cluttered farmhouses or 4storey Georgian/Victorian double fronted. Covered in dog hair.

Oh ffs can we quit the dumb arse stereotyping. Thanks.

It’s easier if you have money, but we are well off and still a chaotic mess most of the time. Money doesn’t cure my dyspraxia, or somehow make me a stylish person.

Easier yes. I have a comfortable salary and no kids etc but definitely do not have a show home or look immaculate (fat and scruffy with clothes from Kmart) because I am lazy and am not hugely motivated about cleaning my toilet every day. I wish I was though.

I do agree with your post though. I think people who have many children and bugger all money and STILL manage to have a clean house and brush their hair most days are the ones who I am amazed by. The rich ones who just outsource everything are not doing anything themselves really

Money can buy you a lot of clutter.

You obviously despise your friends who you think fawn over this woman. Maybe you need to switch off your social media for a while. You sound a bit unhinged and obsessed.

Of course it's easier.
Anything 1 person cant do alone can be outsourced.
There are only 24 hours in a day no matter who you are. But if you have money you can pay for 48 woman hours.

I don't think you sound jealous. I think you are pointing out an issue with how people are judged. I agree that some of these things are easier. My house and car would be much cleaner if someone else were doing them rather than me fitting the cleaning in at the end of a work day. And if I had more money I'd get a personal shopper and a world class hairdresser. They'd improve my look even though I'd be a long way from looking like a super model.

It's easier but not impossible. I'm a lone parent of a 5 year old. Not blowing my own trumpet but close friends often say I have a lovely home and am so organised.

I now live in social housing earn less than £20k a year, but my house is like a show home. White walls, grey carpets throughout, no clutter and pops of colour to brighten each room. I keep it clean and simple and definitely low budget, 5ltrs of white trade paint is far cheaper than vespal colour range.

Storage is key along with having minimal belongings. I clean each evening from 7:30pm it's not much there are only two of us, do the packed lunches for me and my son for the next day, and relax with a cup of tea at about 8:30 and watch TV.

I've always been a naturally organised person though, I like routine and don't get bored with it. The house is awake at 6:30am, we have breakfast, wash, brush teeth and dress. He watches TV whilst I clean the breakfast dishes then it's school run, me work 9-5, pick up, tea/play/TV and bedtime at 7:30 for him.

Weekends are time for "family" so parks, beaches, puddles, indoor play areas things like that, cheap and cheerful sometimes the cinema if the budget will stretch. Oh and the weekly shop in Lidl/Aldi on a Sunday afternoon.

I will often pack 2/3 weeks prior to a holiday too, as the clothes that are needed are washed, I'll iron fold and put them in the case to avoid them ending up dirty again just before we need to go.

I'm just "one of those people" I'm a slave to habit and routine, I don't mind it though I find life easier that way. My house is always clean and tidy because there's one adult and one child, I'm a tidy person who cleans up after a pretty tidy five year old who also has learnt to "tidy up".

Some people are like me, some people are not. None are better than the other. Everyone lives their life as they see fit. Some people would say I have a boring clinical life, and yeah I probably do, but I'm happy. So I don't care.

Of course money helps. It’s much easier to have an organised (and tidy) life when the only part you play is writing a cheque.

My friend's mother was like this growing up, the family had a lot of money and a large house that was always tidy with several children running around because they had a cleaner and a live in au pair. I agree with your post, but I'm definitely not jealous of my friend's mum as I've always felt very much part of their family. Although you wouldn't catch her posting about it on social media

FWIW, I think you sound more exasperated with the rest of the group than jealous of this woman, because you're held to the same standard as parents in this circle yet only one of you has the means to be more put together.

I got rid of all my SM accounts and I'm happier for it, if I'm not seeing other people on warm holidays, I don't get a bit sullen that I'm stuck in rainy England

Good Lord, this woman is posting about packing? I think I'd have to hide her posts, that really does sound dull. And who are these other people lauding her?
Maybe start looking for a new social circle, this lot sound vapid.

Ya THINK?

(Yes, of course it is easier. Who puts pictures of packing on social media, though? Your friend needs to get out more!)

YANBU

Christ alive this post sums nearly everything they is toxic about social media.

Get a grip woman!!

She sounds very pretentious, your mate. Posting all this rah-rah, look at me shit on fbook, then the peasants all chirp up how cool she is? Fuck that