To think my partner is an absolute dick

[Southdownsbelle]

We were just talking about Xmas presents with DD 7 and he says in front of of daughter ‘I don’t think we should get loads of stocking filers this year’ - luckily I don’t think she picked up on it but I was mouthing shut up to him & now he’s had a massive tantrum because I followed him out it the room to ask why he was talking about stocking fillers in front of our 7year old (luckily she didn’t pick up on it but normally nothing gets past her)

WTF- aibu to think he’s a dick? Talk about nearly ruining Xmas 🙄 It’s not even like kids believe in Santa for that long anyway!!

You lot with your biscuits - I hope they drop into your cup of tea!
I get you OP - you want to preserve the magic a little bit longer, and he nearly ruined it. Dickish and thoughtless.

It was a slightly careless thing to say.

Following him out of the room, behaving aggressively towards him, and calling him a 'dick' to all and sundry on the internet are all much worse. There's never a good reason to show aggression to your partner, least of all something this trivial.

Completely agree thedancingbear, I'm really not surprised he had a tantrum, I wouldn't take kindly to someone thinking it was ok to treat me like that if I made a little mistake.

Loads of parents of kids in my DD's class are convinced their little innocents still believe, (they are Yr 6). I warned DD not to say anything and she laughed and said they all know FC isn't real; they just keep up the pretence to keep their parents happy and to ensure a big fat stocking full of presents!

I feel a strong urge to read everyone the first chapter of 'Little Women.'

I think many mothers have put a shed load of work into making the magic of Christmas (etc etc) and for a father to make a throwaway remark like that is very annoying. How hard could it be to not say that? I've a 7 year old and he absolutely believes. He is also not thick/stupid/babied, he just believes in magic, for now.

No, not obtuse. You can downsize the amount of crap without removing the magic of Christmas. Frankly, I’m very surprised my own child kept believing in Santa until he was 12... despite being an atheist and spending the best part of his childhood pointing up to other kids that the guy in the Santa costume anywhere we were, was not really Santa (or the real one)

I’m sure OP your kid will be fine, that’s the power of faith... on Santa

I had a Sky News alert about this earlier.

Hope you’re ok now?

Why did you follow him out to ask about this? It wasn’t that urgent and you must have known the answer to your question anyway.

Oh fgs grow up..sounds like he slipped up. Do grown up really behave this way?

I wouldn't be too mad at him. I do shit like this all the time. I would be quite upset if DH got mad at me. I once let the cat out of the bag to my 14 yo about her surprise weekend away which was in 3 days time because I was mentally organising in my head but for some reason it came out of my mouth.

I do think you've overreacted somewhat, as my 7 year old DD knows the truth now, through friends at her school) and isn't all that bothered. But I get why you were annoyed, as you didn't want your DP to let the cat out of the bag just yet.

But it isn't worth creating a drama out of this, although your DP seems to have handled it all badly as well.

Loads of parents of kids in my DD's class are convinced their little innocents still believe, (they are Yr 6). I warned DD not to say anything and she laughed and said they all know FC isn't real; they just keep up the pretence to keep their parents happy and to ensure a big fat stocking full of presents!

This is so true! I am teacher and find it very funny indeed. Kids are great.