To be annoyed by a man whistling loudly in a coffee shop

[Rosehip10]

I've just had to leave a pret as a bloke sat down with a coffee and started continually whistling loudly whilst reading a newspaper. Was oblivious to stern looks given by several other tables. I hate attention seeking idiots like this. Lucky I was using an rreusable cup so walked. Anyone else hate this?

It would have driven me mad too. I'd have left

YANBU. What an arsehole.

Find people less aware than ever these days of their impact on others. What is this culture of using the speaker on a mobile (not even for video calls) as too lazy to hold phone to ear! Seems to be prevalent on London buses.

YANBU. Whistling is the one thing that makes me want to commit murder.

I hate whistling!!

YANBU. And I agree about people putting their calls on speaker and then holding their phone in front of their mouths to talk. What is that even about?

YANBU. It would set my teeth on edge. Why do some people feel the need to constantly make noise?

Why didn't you just ask him to politely stop instead of leaving or asked a member of staff too?

I’d have thrown my coffee at him in a rage. It’s the one sound guaranteed to enrage me. We had a guy in the airport do it all the way down the tunnel thing to the plane. I was a bit passive aggressive and said loudly as we reached the doors of the plane ‘hopefully the tube who is whistling won’t do it through the whole flight as it’s been annoying enough for the last two
Minutes!’

I wonder if this bloke went to my local Aldi straight after his coffee? I despise whistlers and I find that no matter how many people throw them looks or tut at them it's almost as if they enjoy that. They never ever stop. I could have cheerfully drop-kicked his whistling face into next week.

He can’t have been attention seeking if he wasn’t deliberately seeking attention- which it sounds like he wasn’t. He was being thoughtless.

I like to think I'm quite tolerant of others noise but whistling in a cafe....no...I would have asked him to stop and left if he didn't.

YABU for not asking him to be quiet. If he's that oblivious he probably didn't notice the stern looks. Why not say something instead of quietly fuming?

I'd have asked him to stop, politely - it is anti social and annoying other people have paid to sit and have thier coffee. Children get enough filthy looks for just chattering away or giggling.

My XH used to whistle through his teeth almost continuously whatever he was doing. I don't know if he was doing it to annoy (strong possibility) or was oblvious (weaker possibilty). But one of the things I enjoyed most after we split up was to be able to relax in quietness wihtout someone hissing like a tone deaf snake in the next room.

I think there’s a good chance it was unconscious and if he was concentrating on the paper he didn’t notice the looks. Someone needed to ask him to stop, or you could all sit seething with anger, leave or like PP feel like actually scald him.

I think I might work with him. Everybody look at meeeee. All the attention all the time. Everyone needs to be thinking about him all the time even strangers in Pret. The whistling is genius. You've even got us thinking about him. God help us, he'd be ecstatic.

oblivious - so retrospectively cross I can't spell

It's so weird that people have stopped using basic communication

"Excuse me, hi. Could you stop whistling please? It's going right through my head, thank you". Along with a nice polite smile.

Or at the very least, ask a member of staff to ask them.

Yanbu, I would have asked him to stop

I ask to be quiet now. On trains, playing their fucking tinny music through their phone without headphones, whistlers, the lot. Someone told me that if you phrase it like this, it works better. Dunno if it's true but I go with it anyway.

'are you the type of person who would mind being asked to stop [whatever]?'

I think it's because it's asking them to reflect. They think, hmm, what kind of person am I?? 😂

@WorraLiberty - as many people are rude and aggressive, especially when challenged on anti social behaviour.

Exactly Worra

I'd have thrown my coffee at him in a rage
Yeah sure

Ask a member of staff then if you're afariad of talking to strangers...

Ask a staff member to help then.

Poor guy.