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AIBU?

To be annoyed by a man whistling loudly in a coffee shop

64 replies

Rosehip10 · 24/11/2019 11:33

I've just had to leave a pret as a bloke sat down with a coffee and started continually whistling loudly whilst reading a newspaper. Was oblivious to stern looks given by several other tables. I hate attention seeking idiots like this. Lucky I was using an rreusable cup so walked. Anyone else hate this?

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blighter · 24/11/2019 11:40

It would have driven me mad too. I'd have left

PreggoFeminist86 · 24/11/2019 11:45

YANBU. What an arsehole.

Rosehip10 · 24/11/2019 11:48

Find people less aware than ever these days of their impact on others. What is this culture of using the speaker on a mobile (not even for video calls) as too lazy to hold phone to ear! Seems to be prevalent on London buses.

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nononever · 24/11/2019 11:52

YANBU. Whistling is the one thing that makes me want to commit murder.

PatchworkElmer · 24/11/2019 11:55

I hate whistling!!

Jollitwiglet · 24/11/2019 11:57

YANBU. And I agree about people putting their calls on speaker and then holding their phone in front of their mouths to talk. What is that even about?

DeeZastris · 24/11/2019 12:00

YANBU. It would set my teeth on edge. Why do some people feel the need to constantly make noise?

areyouafraidofthedark · 24/11/2019 12:00

Why didn't you just ask him to politely stop instead of leaving or asked a member of staff too?

Likethebattle · 24/11/2019 12:01

I’d have thrown my coffee at him in a rage. It’s the one sound guaranteed to enrage me. We had a guy in the airport do it all the way down the tunnel thing to the plane. I was a bit passive aggressive and said loudly as we reached the doors of the plane ‘hopefully the tube who is whistling won’t do it through the whole flight as it’s been annoying enough for the last two
Minutes!’

NegroniOnIce · 24/11/2019 12:02

I wonder if this bloke went to my local Aldi straight after his coffee? I despise whistlers and I find that no matter how many people throw them looks or tut at them it's almost as if they enjoy that. They never ever stop. I could have cheerfully drop-kicked his whistling face into next week.

daisypond · 24/11/2019 12:02

He can’t have been attention seeking if he wasn’t deliberately seeking attention- which it sounds like he wasn’t. He was being thoughtless.

MonChatEstMagnifique · 24/11/2019 12:04

I like to think I'm quite tolerant of others noise but whistling in a cafe....no...I would have asked him to stop and left if he didn't.

JasonPollack · 24/11/2019 12:05

YABU for not asking him to be quiet. If he's that oblivious he probably didn't notice the stern looks. Why not say something instead of quietly fuming?

KurriKurri · 24/11/2019 12:08

I'd have asked him to stop, politely - it is anti social and annoying other people have paid to sit and have thier coffee. Children get enough filthy looks for just chattering away or giggling.

My XH used to whistle through his teeth almost continuously whatever he was doing. I don't know if he was doing it to annoy (strong possibility) or was oblvious (weaker possibilty). But one of the things I enjoyed most after we split up was to be able to relax in quietness wihtout someone hissing like a tone deaf snake in the next room.

Difficultcustomer · 24/11/2019 12:08

I think there’s a good chance it was unconscious and if he was concentrating on the paper he didn’t notice the looks. Someone needed to ask him to stop, or you could all sit seething with anger, leave or like PP feel like actually scald him.

TowelNumber42 · 24/11/2019 12:09

I think I might work with him. Everybody look at meeeee. All the attention all the time. Everyone needs to be thinking about him all the time even strangers in Pret. The whistling is genius. You've even got us thinking about him. God help us, he'd be ecstatic.

KurriKurri · 24/11/2019 12:09

oblivious - so retrospectively cross I can't spell Grin

WorraLiberty · 24/11/2019 12:10

It's so weird that people have stopped using basic communication Confused

"Excuse me, hi. Could you stop whistling please? It's going right through my head, thank you". Along with a nice polite smile.

Or at the very least, ask a member of staff to ask them.

Sushi123 · 24/11/2019 12:11

Yanbu, I would have asked him to stop

OlderthenYoungerNow · 24/11/2019 12:12

I ask to be quiet now. On trains, playing their fucking tinny music through their phone without headphones, whistlers, the lot. Someone told me that if you phrase it like this, it works better. Dunno if it's true but I go with it anyway.

'are you the type of person who would mind being asked to stop [whatever]?'

I think it's because it's asking them to reflect. They think, hmm, what kind of person am I?? 😂

Rosehip10 · 24/11/2019 12:14

@WorraLiberty - as many people are rude and aggressive, especially when challenged on anti social behaviour.

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ilovesooty · 24/11/2019 12:16

Exactly Worra

I'd have thrown my coffee at him in a rage
Yeah sure Hmm

JasonPollack · 24/11/2019 12:16

Ask a member of staff then if you're afariad of talking to strangers...

ilovesooty · 24/11/2019 12:17

Ask a staff member to help then.

SkiingIsHeaven · 24/11/2019 12:27

Poor guy.

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