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Did I overreact at this wedding ?

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Phoenixxx · 24/11/2019 00:17

A close friend of 20 years' wedding, with a group of female friends we have known since school.
I have been unlucky in love, I try to joke about it but it hurts me inside. I have had a string of bad luck and was abused a few years ago.
A few months ago I was dumped for someone else and i'm still trying to get over it. I said I was going on a date next week and a girl called me a 'serial dater'.

I was a bridesmaid at this wedding and later on she said "What are you going to do with your dress ? Are you going to make it your 'forever a bridesmaid' dress ? You are going to be like that woman in 27 dresses'.
I have only been a bridesmaid once and she was clearly making a dig at me, even though I have never been anything but kind to her, so I ignored it and walked off.
Later on, I was telling another friend about my upcoming date and she (referring to my past) said, "wow, brave" and laughed.
I just went to the toilet and started crying, and asked her why they were making digs as it was really hard to have to go through all that emotional pain.
The girl then started crying and said I had a lot going for me and deserved someone great. I told the girl it wasnt her fault and we had a long chat . I think it all just got too much.

Later on, another friend was very drunk, and started getting bossy. She told me to go and get her a drink, even though she could have easily got it herself. Then she was in one of those moods of shouting "it's your fault !!" whenever anything bad happened. She knocked a drink over with her scarf and blamed me, and I said no, YOU did that. Then she asked me to go and get her a drink again and I told her that I was not her slave and she could get her own. I just hate being spoken to that way even if she was drunk. She looked stunned and then i saw her laughing about me to another friend, and she was really off with me for the rest of the night.

Am I just too touchy/sensitive ? Did I overreact here ?

OP posts:
daisychain01 · 24/11/2019 17:26

@Phoenixxx if only you knew, you are a switched-on person and very self-aware. Those are great qualities you know. I bet you're fabber than you think you are.

Regrouped, get a few proper friends and I bet you things will look very different in a year from now. I hate to use the old hackney'd "get a hobby" - like that's the answer to everything, but I'd be inclined to take up some interest or develop a talent, to take the focus off yourself in a good way, so you don't have the time to be so self-critical and put yourself under the microscope.

Emeraldshamrock · 24/11/2019 17:45

Everyone (well, pretty much everyone) could write a book about bad dates, we just don't tell everyone else!
This ☝️
To add pretty everyone has experienced wedding drama all those old meet ups are difficult.
They're idiots OP.
Enjoy your date next week.

ghostyslovesheets · 24/11/2019 18:24

yes I think you did over react - yes some of those comments where a little near the mark but people get tactless when drinking - you sound as bad with your comment about your friends - stop sharing all the dramaz of your life, grow a slightly thicker skin

Becclescake · 24/11/2019 23:01

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Italiangreyhound · 25/11/2019 00:33

Sharing comments anonymously about friends when looking for support is not 'as bad' as saying unkind things to supposed friends in front of their faces.

How you doing now OP? Flowers

Preciosaundostres · 25/11/2019 18:03

Your unlucky with your friends as well never mind in love i totally get you love you sound lovely and too nice just like i used to be toughen up , walk away , meet new people totally agree with BLACKCATSLEEPING also they are from the past too i think its time to look ahead and leave those toxic friends exactly where they belong. Take care love

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