Cinema etiquette

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I am sure this has been done to death but do people in cinemas really not care about the enjoyment of others??

I have just got home from going to see Frozen 2 with my two daughters 10 and 5. We had an aisle seat, one down from the back, where my 10 year old sat, I sat next to her, then my 5 year old. My 10 year old suffers from minor sensory issues.

On the back row were 2 mothers with their daughters around 4 years old. The two girls were allowed to sit/ jump around on the steps next to my daughter. The girls were very chatty and one of the girls had bright flashing shoes which went off each time she banged her feet or jumped up and down, which she did a lot to see the flashing lights in the dark 😡

When the lights were going off, very bright in a dark cinema, I looked around at the mothers a couple of times, subtlety indicating that it was quite distracting, no response. After a while of this going on, and my daughter getting quite bothered by the constant flashing, I turned and asked the mothers to stop the flashing.

They finally got the hint and sat the girls down in their designated chairs but I could tell they were not happy.

Was IBU??

YANBU.

At a kids film I wouldn't expect absolute silence because kids are kids but jumping about and flashing lights is taking the piss.

With the cost of the cinema i would expect four year olds to be able to sit and for mothers to be able to realise others actually want to watch the film

If your kids can’t sit still, don’t take them.

this is why we ca only go daytime when everyone is in school

disabilities mean my son cant cope and even worse if its others there

hes ok if there is a few but they sit there and are quiet but kids playing up mean we would have to leave so we go daytime when its quiet

No. Not unreasonable Even if it's a film aimed at children, a reasonable standard of behaviour is to be expected. You can't let your children invade other people's space.

I hear you OP. We had crying babies and loud toddlers at the one we went to. I know it's a kids film but the cinema is not a cheap day out.

YANBU

DD and I had similar when we went to the theatre to see Mama Mia. In our case the 3 children were sitting next to us and the adults (2 mums and a gran) were behind us totally ignoring them.

I was terrified people would think they were my kids!!

This is why I dont go to the cinema anymore. Endless movement, noise and phones. And its not a cheap outing

People are awful in cinemas. I’m deaf so can only attend subtitled showings - these are always clearly advertised as subtitled but almost every time I’ve seen hearing people leave the film to complain that the subtitles are distracting them. How selfish can you get, they could go to literally any other showing but no, they have to complain about ours instead. Idiots.

We went last night - 7pm, so quite late, but my DC are older.

There was a crying baby and a toddler roaring throughout. No attempt to quieten them. It's just selfish.

No not at all U. They were inconsiderate parents.

Im wondering if we was at same showing we was 4 rows from back and 2 young girls were dancing around on top steps and with what i thought was a flashing light toy.
Yanbu at all, it proper pissed me off.

Wasnt the film fab though

I detest other people in the cinema. When I go now, I go when I know it is going to be quiet. If it’s for me, I go alone and normally during the day, when it’s virtually empty. For the kids, I take them towards the end if a film’s run, so it will be quiet.

I know I’m fortunate that my kids behave in the cinema and watch the movie but I fucking cannot be doing with kids or adults who can’t behave in the cinema. I have gone fucking nuts at people in the cinema once or twice.

This kind of thing is so bloody rude. Although I did once go and complain to the staff and they had a word with some unruly kids, so it's worth having a go.

We've just been to see it too and have just been complaining about other people's behaviour. So many people coming in late, after the actual film had started, including a family coming in shining the torch on a phone to see where they were going and shining it right into our eyes. Then there were people down at the front who kept taking photos of the screen, with their phone screens lighting up so bright, and all the way through people kept going out and coming back in constantly and it wasn't just people taking small children out for the toilet, it was grown adults on their own a lot of the time. So distracting.

I would have gone and had a word with one of the cinema workers. I’ve done this before when I asked a mother to stop her child banging against the back of my seat, and being generally disruptive. She ignored me, so I, and a guy sat at the other side of me experiencing same issue, got her kicked out.

I introduced my DC to the cinema at around 4 years old. They know they have to stay seated, crinkly crisp packets and sweet wrappers are not allowed. I taught them a sign to use when they needed the toilet. So on the whole they are quiet. But in funny parts they will laugh along, that's allowed x

i dunno. a daytime screening of a film aimed at young kids is hardly an average cinema trip, i'd half expect some silliness.

Adults behave just as badly.

I took my nephew for his first cinema trip. Totally empty cinema. A huge man came in after the fils had started and sat directly in froNot of him, huge room full of empty (unallocated) seat and this 6foot 5 eejit sits in front of a four year old. Selfish bastard.

Nephew wouldn’t move seats because it was dark and could barely see the movie.

DH and I discussed taking DDs to see Frozen 2 this weekend. Decided not to as there would be Other People there. They will have to wait a bit.

@Bonniegirl435 without giving too much away, it was a 13.40 showing in a town with lots of new housing. If you were there it’s good to know it wasn’t just be that was irritated!

YANBU.
When we went to see the Lion King we could hardly concentrate on the film for people chatting and kids running up and down the stairs.

It's not just in kids films that some people forget their manners. I once suddenly found myself turning round and saying to a woman who was with a group of friends "Did your mother not teach you any manners? - Close your mouth when you eat!"
All her friends were in hysterics, and thankfully, she stopped her disgusting open mouthed chomping!

@rattusrattus20 I do agree that at a newly released film aimed at small kids, there is going to be a some very excitable behaviour but who lets their kid wear flashing shoes and actively encourages them to set them off over and over and as @thistimelastweek mentioned you shouldn’t invade other people’s space

YANBU. People can be selfish twats.

A woman was sat in my booked seat once at the cinema in a packed cinema. The usher asked her to move and she told him ‘If you think I’m moving you’ve got another fucking think coming’

I was young then but now I think would sit in her lap until she moved

YANBU, they were.