Cinema etiquette

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I am sure this has been done to death but do people in cinemas really not care about the enjoyment of others??

I have just got home from going to see Frozen 2 with my two daughters 10 and 5. We had an aisle seat, one down from the back, where my 10 year old sat, I sat next to her, then my 5 year old. My 10 year old suffers from minor sensory issues.

On the back row were 2 mothers with their daughters around 4 years old. The two girls were allowed to sit/ jump around on the steps next to my daughter. The girls were very chatty and one of the girls had bright flashing shoes which went off each time she banged her feet or jumped up and down, which she did a lot to see the flashing lights in the dark 😡

When the lights were going off, very bright in a dark cinema, I looked around at the mothers a couple of times, subtlety indicating that it was quite distracting, no response. After a while of this going on, and my daughter getting quite bothered by the constant flashing, I turned and asked the mothers to stop the flashing.

They finally got the hint and sat the girls down in their designated chairs but I could tell they were not happy.

Was IBU??

Right, noted: Do not allow my DD to wear her flashing Frozen trainers to cinema next weekend.☻

Oh god I’m taking dd to see it tomorrow morning and the showing is practically sold out. We’re sat right at the back near the stairs so will hopefully not disturb too many people when she needs her inevitable mid film wee! She’s 6 and knows to be quiet etc so I just hope it’s not too disruptive and we can enjoy the film.

No reason why she can't wear them, just don't let her jump around to make them go off.

I think the majority of people do care about others but there is a minority that either don't care or are completely thoughtless.

I once sat next to a lady with 3 children and an 18-bag family pack of crisps which she distributed along the row with much rustling and crunching. By the time they'd got to the 3rd 'round' of crisps I asked politely whether they could just keep the noise down a bit. Her response was to start gathering the crisps up from the children whilst loudly talking about the 'grumpy bitch who won't let us eat crisps'.

Spent the rest of film staring straight ahead and wishing I'd never said anything.

No OP YANBU at all

As others have stated it costs a lot to go to the cinema and why should it be ruined >?
I get the little ones are excited but perhaps their mothers should wait for it to come out on DVD .

@Kraggle honestly I’m not that bad!! No kids are perfect and toilet breaks are inevitable with young kids, it’s the complete lack of consideration to others that drives me mad, we all have kids and know they can be a pain at times but how we react is telling of how our kids will grow up.

It is the attitude of ‘my kids are having fun and that’s all that matters’ that drives me mad 😡

YANBU. I was in the theatre a few months ago and there was a child behind us jumping up and down holding the back of DD's seat whilst the grandma just watched the show. Eventually I turned around and asked the child politely to please stop and the family gave me the look. Then two minutes later got a tap on the shoulder and a passive aggressive "But is she hurting her?" Can't stand the attitude of nothing else matters as long as my child is having fun.

@WhentheRabbitsWentWild or their fathers...

YANBU

I saw frozen 2 today with 600 brownies and guides at a special screening, all of whom behaved very well! Yes there was some rustling and girls being taken out to the toilet, but that’s inevitable with young kids.

I’m still cross with the parent who allowed their toddler to shout their way through the Lion king remake, who left and came back seven times (no exaggeration) during the film.

Nothing compared to the teenage boys who took their shoes off and put their feet up on the seat next to mine, while keeping up an “amusing” running commentary of the jumanji sequel. That’s the only time I’ve ever turned round and told strangers to behave!

I’ve not read the thread yet (sorry) but am babysitting for a girl who is 3 who has talked at the top of her voice non-stop through Strictly and went to see Frozen 2 today. I asked if she was quiet and she told me all about how she talked lots - not whispered - while she was on the steps. I imagine that for anyone else nearby it would have been hideous. Maybe cinemas should do screenings that are literally for young children who aren’t yet able to sit through a film. Unless they already do!

Wow this is awful. I take my baby to a special screening each week. I wouldnt take him to a normal showing even though he is used to it and really enjoys it. I would never take him if he couldn't sit and watch the film when he is older. People are so oblivious and selfish

Cinema etiquette is get there prior to film starting, sit down, turn off phone, don’t talk, discuss film when ended.

If you can’t do the above wait for the dvd release

YANBU. Also as an adult with sensory issues I detest how unnecessarily loud they make it too, scares the life out of me.

We went to a 9am showing this morning. Lots of young kids and a bit of noise, which we expected. My nearly 4 year old wasn't silent but stayed seated and we shushed her if she didn't whisper or spoke to much. She was mostly enjoying the film and not chatting anyway. There was a kid aged about 2 directly in front of us bored out of his skull and watching YouTube videos to try and stop him shouting. People need to use a bit of common sense. There were 2 parents and 2 kids there someone should have just stayed home with the little one. We dumped our younger one on his grandma.

Took my 3yo and her two friends this morning. They managed to sit through it with only one wee break and quick seat shuffle for a cuddle.
Yes it was heaving with people and you expect a degree of restlessness as most of the kids are little but there are limits and not being disruptive is part of going

Cinema is full of people like that lady and her mum who sang at Tina Turner the musical. Common as fuck, plebs, scummy. We dont go anymore.

YANBU, I would never bring a child who can't sit still to the cinema in the first place, let alone giving them flashing shoes.

YANBU.
The rules of the cinema / cinema etiquette should be made much clearer. It costs a fortune to go and there's always someone causing a disturbance.
Plenty of cinemas put on special showings for young kids and toddlers, often in the mornings. Though I find it's adults who chat through films etc too. Really annoying.

We went see the Depeche Mode film on Thursday. Large cinema with about 25 people. My friend and I sat on the end of the row. About 20 minutes into the screening there appears half a dozen adults who just had to sit on the same row and insisted on going by us, even though they could’ve got in without bothering anyone from the other end, so we had to move to let them past. 15 minutes later one of the guys needed to loo and just had to struggle past us. My friend asked him to go back the other way , but no, he had to go past us again. Told us if we didn’t like it then we should move!
Absolute total flippin planks. 🤦‍♀️

One of the many new Star Wars films - group of kids on what was probably a birthday treat. The grownups with them had obviously decided that as they weren’t their kids, they weren’t their responsibility. They were playing ‘let’s wave our hand over the projection’. They stopped when I told them to.

But Jesus Christ, I shouldn’t have had to step in.

Cinema etiquette? There isn't any. Haven't been to one in years

FabulouslyFab I'd have sat like a rock and watched him try to climb over

Yanbu. People don't give a shit. If you say anything you are a fun sucking arsehole who hates kids. We just want to enjoy the film without having our seats kicked or having to listen to someone unpack a roast dinner from foil and noisily eat it.

It’s a balance. A kids’ film at the cinema isn’t Don Giovanni at the Royal Opera House, so you won’t get hushed silence. BUT - and it’s a big but - neither is it watching a DVD in your sitting room. Other people have paid for the experience, so it’s not unreasonable to expect to be able to enjoy the film without being constantly disturbed by the behaviour of others. If your kids can’t sit still for the duration of a film, then don’t take them! You don’t sound like you were unreasonable at all, OP.

I'd have sat like a rock and watched him try to climb over

I saw this happen once and the man climbing over let rip and almighty fart straight in a seated woman’s face ..... me and my friend were in stitches .... you’ve been warned!