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AIBU?

To say something how they eat

121 replies

disneyconfusion · 22/11/2019 20:33

Going on holiday with my PIL for 2 weeks...

we saw them tonight and we were all at the table having some food and while I already knew my MIL eats loudly (think a lot of lip smacking and loud finger suckings, honestly it's OTT) because I spend a lot of time with her, my FIL was even worse!

They were both making the most atrocious noises, it was honestly quite shocking... my DP was looking at me like 'OMG' because people eating loudly does annoy him anyway and this was particularly extreme.

My ex husband also eats like this too.

I can understand that maybe you don't notice if you're always living and eating alone and I might gobble a bit if I'm hungry and alone but when I'm around other people I'm conscious that I'm eating quietly out of respect for them... not in an unnatural or uncomfortable way but just polite.

I think that this will drive me absolutely insane on holiday and not to mention I think i will feel a bit embarrassed if they eat like this in public which I'm assuming they do because my MIL has always eaten like this when I've see her.

AIBU to ask them to eat with their mouths closed and quieter?

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disneyconfusion · 22/11/2019 20:34

*about how they eat 🤦‍♀️

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Chuffingchuff · 22/11/2019 20:36

Oh no, I cant stand it. It just goes through me!! I dont think I could go away with them for 2 weeks and eat every meal together without imploding.

Winterdaysarehere · 22/11/2019 20:41

Ask them which zoo they were raised in....

RandomMess · 22/11/2019 20:41

I have a friend I would like to go on holiday with but I can't because of her noisy eating 🙈

DisplayPurposesOnly · 22/11/2019 20:45

Leave it to your DP to tell them.

TeeniefaeTroon · 22/11/2019 20:48

Am I reading this right, you and your partner are going on holiday with your ex husbands parents?

disneyconfusion · 22/11/2019 20:49

@TeeniefaeTroon no 😂 me and DP are going away with his parents

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disneyconfusion · 22/11/2019 20:50

I was just saying my exH eats just the same... my dd said 'why does daddy eat so loudly it's horrible'

I can't understand how and why people eat like this?

Do people who eat like this know they do? Or is it subconscious?

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Stroller15 · 22/11/2019 20:51

Let DP tell them. My dad's the same, he can eat even yoghurt so the neighbours can hear! I told him a few years ago and he went nuts and didn't speak to me for about a week - but is now still much much quieter and considerate.

HexeSauerkraut · 22/11/2019 20:54

Uuuuurrrggghhhhhh.... I could not be in the same room!
Next time maybe take photographic or even better video evidence and then show them..?

Thestrangestthing · 22/11/2019 20:58

My dp eats like this, actually he is like a bloody animal, sometime his face if so close to the plate he might as well put the fork down and lick it up like a dog. God forbid we have something a bit runny like soup, then it's just constant slurping. He also slurps every mouthful of a cup of tea, apparently its better like that.
I honestly don't know why we are together.

Angela9 · 22/11/2019 21:01

Do they have dentures?

WizzyBee · 22/11/2019 21:06

Say something like 'it sounds like you're really enjoying that!'

So irritating

leli · 22/11/2019 21:11

Poor you, this is difficult. But great that your DP agrees with you. I was raised by a noisy gobbler DM and it set my teeth on edge. I absolutely used to hate Sunday lunch and I still feel outraged by her eating. I never said anything though because I knew it would incense her and i also wondered if I was being over-sensitive.

On balance I wouldn't say anything but I'd try to avoid eating with them.

theEnglishInPatient · 22/11/2019 21:13

It's up to your DH to tell his own parents!

It is hard, it genuinely makes me feel sick. I can ignore embarrassment pretty well, who cares what complete strangers think? But I can't eat surrounded by noisy eaters.

hazeydays14 · 22/11/2019 21:15

‘FIL’ hums whilst he eats. It infuriates me and makes me feel ill 😂 DP doesn’t even notice, I think he’s used to it.

I probably wouldn’t say anything in my situation because FIL can be a little sensitive to criticism and it’s not worth it.

PollyShelby · 22/11/2019 21:15

No. I'd have to cancel. I couldn't and can't bear it.

I loathe bad table manners.

dudsville · 22/11/2019 21:16

Never allow yourself to be embarrassed by another's actions. Why would anyone judge you for eating with loud eaters?

I wouldn't say anything. However depending on the noise or might affect my appetite. I'm a little "sensitive", but I'd leave them to be them.

Aquamarine1029 · 22/11/2019 21:16

You mentioning this to them will kick off WWIII, so if you do, plan to be uninvited for the holiday. The only one who can try to approach this is your partner, although I doubt anything will change even if he does. People this disgusting are completely oblivious as to how gross they are. I feel for you because there is NO WAY I could eat anywhere near them.

Oysterbabe · 22/11/2019 21:17

No you can't say anything to them unless you want to turn them against you.

amusedbush · 22/11/2019 21:20

I can’t bear loud eaters. I suffer terribly with misophonia and I’d have to leave the room if they did that around me.

I honestly couldn’t go on holiday with them.

TheMidasTouch · 22/11/2019 21:22

No. Don't tell them. I'm pretty sure that won't end happily (unless you want to fall out so that you don't go on the holiday together).
Would they take it well from DP doing it in a jokey manner perhaps saying they sound worse than kids?

billy1966 · 22/11/2019 21:25

I actually would be so distressed by that it would kill my appetite.

I appreciate that may sound ridiculous but I just can't be around awful manners.

I can honestly say I would bail on the holiday rather than share a table with them.

You know best OP if you can do a week of that.

Me? I'd rather be in work.

Good luck💐

Spacecudet · 22/11/2019 21:27

My MIL constantly hums loudly when she eats, drives me crackers. Told her once, made no difference, it is a habit and she will never stop.

kateluvscats · 22/11/2019 21:28

Don't get me started on the people who stick their tongue out for every mouthful, Mary Berry guilty as charged.urrrgh 😩

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