About this? Need to vent!

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So I primarily take care of the washing in our house (myself, boyfriend & dog).

I slept in today and during this time my 'helpful' partner has decided to take my planned laundry load out the machine (which was stuff we actually needed washing- whites, towels etc!) and has done 2 loads of clothing that he's just let sit in the washing basket, wet, for about 2hrs now.

When I asked him why he would leave it there and not hang it out and continue to do another load after that he stated that he 'hasn't got time'.

YES THATS EXACTLY WHY I DO THE WASHING.

So now we have 2 loads of laundry, that have been sitting out in the open, creased and wet for over 2hrs so will probably need to be washed again unless we want to smell damp!

(And we have no room now for me to wash the stuff we actually needed to wash either)

And before you ask, we had plenty of clean, dry, ironed clothes. He wasn't running low on anything (as I have a system!).

He's now having a strop because I pointed out that it's not actually helpful as we don't have the drying space for all the clothes and he's just left them in a sodden pile for 2hrs.

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@lanthanum oh nooo 😂😭

Sticking a load of washing in the washing machine and switching it in takes 2 minutes.

Sorting through wet stuff and figuring out what to hang up to dry or what to put in tumble dryer ( if you have one) or pegging outside takes 10-15 minutes. Taking down dry laundry, sorting, folding and putting in the right place takes 10-15 mins.

Knowing not to have too much laundry on the go at once due to limited drying space should be common sense but appears not to be.

Therefore bunging a couple of loads of laundry on is hardly helpful. Its a bit like claiming you've done the dishes when all you've done is put a tab in the dishwasher and switched it on.

DH knows to leave the laundry alone now after he shrunk a few important items of DSs in the tumble dryer.

Why don’t you work?

YABU. The energy wasted on being annoyed would be better spent sat admiring your spaniel.

@NormaBean True! We are having cuddles as I type!

I'm studying :)

@rookiemere Oh no! My boyfriend actually shrunk my new AllSaints cashmere jumper last year after I had worn it once! 😩😭

Buy him a heated airer for Christmas :)

My husband does the opposite and waits until the night before the ironing lady ( my mum) comes to bring down a mountain of dirty laundry from his en-suite - at least he’s tried

It always makes me laugh that women are described as ‘doing’ housework but men ‘help with’ housework.

YANBU.

Two questions occur to me:

Why did he decide his load should take priority over the white load that was already in the machine?

How on earth did he manage before you got together and took on the laundry work?

i get washing machine rage too.
Ours is in the garage so DH will randomly put it on and then leave it, so I find it a day later.
Or he'll part fill it and leave it, so I think there's no washing to be done till I take in a load.
Or he'll dye all my white underwear and the kids clothes but never his grey.
I seriously do not understand why he even touches the washing machine when he knows he invariably cocks up the system.

It is a big deal, it gives OP yet more work to do, she is left with a sulking man child which could in time destroy their relationship and quite honestly I'd rather a partner did nothing than did a job badly and half done.
It isn't rocket science any of it, I'd like a grown man please with some common sense who isn't constantly out to make my life harder.
My ex husbands idea of cleaning the work tops was to get a damp sponge, spread butter/lard from his cooking evenly all over the work top whilst brushing all of the bread crumbs directly onto my clean newly washed floor.

I'm also wondering what he was doing such that he didn't have time to put either wash up.

Also the idea that he could just leave it for Op to deal with.

@mrsbyers A heated airer is a great idea!

@Herocomplex I know right😂 at least they're 'helping'🙄😩

@NearlyGranny
#1 fuck knows, we now have loads of clothes and no whites or towels!🤦🏻‍♀️
#2 fuck knows again 😂

@diddl he was 'working' (which is exactly why I do the laundry in the first place!). Fine if he does it all and see's it through by hanging it out to dry but useless if he just leaves it in a pile as puts another wash on!

@Dict You are so right! Thank you!

@flouncyfanny working on that, it's so expensive to rent a house/flat with outdoor space around here though 😫