AIBU to consider this sleeping arrangement-help!

[Wammyjodger]

16 month old DD isn't walking independently, but doing everything else, so I don't think it will be long.

She absolutely detests her cot and is currently still cosleeping with us. We have a cosleeping crib thing attached to our bed, she doesn't mind it, and will spend the first part of the evening in it, but for the past few weeks she has been very unsettled, waking up after 30 or 40 minutes, taking ages to go back to sleep, screaming, going back to sleep for half an hour before she's up again....

I've really had enough, I'm knackered and desperately need adult time in the evenings.

DD will have her own room, but due to the layout of the house it's the floor above ours, an attic room, but it's a small flight of stairs and you can see her door from our door if that makes sense?

Should we consider changing her cot to the cot bed setting, putting up a bed guard and trying her in her own room? Part of me feels incredibly anxious at the thought, and I do like having her in with us throughout the night, but this evening thing is becoming so hard.

I am still breastfeeding too, if that makes a difference.

She is so tiny still, and I hate the thought of her lying up there on her own. AIBU or being silly?

No decision is irreversible. Im sure she would go into that room eventually anyway, so you could set it up for her, and if shes still waking as much and you get fed up of trudging up and down stairs, then you can always bring her back to you.

From personal experience DS1 was in with us (Moses basket / attached cot) for ages and was a terrible sleeper, very restless. We all spent months in a daze of sleep deprivation!

We tried him in his own bed, in a separate room out of desperation and it was a revelation - he slept through peacefully every night! I guess he just needed the space...

I'd give it a try for a couple of weeks, OP, it might be what she's (literally) crying out for.

Double bed guard and Co sleep. She still is little and if you’re breastfeeding it will enable you both to get more sleep

If there was a fire you have to go back further into the house to rescue your child to then come back out again. I think really the child needs to be on the same floor as the parent.

"Too many stories of children overheating and dying. Well actually here is one story...in a different country..but still.."
😆 what?!

Surely most kids sleep on a different floor until the parents go to bed if they're in their own room (I.e kids go to bed at 7 or whenever and parents stay downstairs?) We're in a flat but thought it was much more normal to be in a house.

I'm terrified of house fires. It's one of the things that I'm particularly anxious about. We have numerous very good fire alarms however, and our bedroom door and the foot of the stairs is right by the back door