To really struggle with incessant singing, movement, fidgeting of my 9 yr old

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A lovely, vibrant, intelligent, highly sporty boy.... who doesn’t stop moving. dancing, singing, making loud annoying noises.

It it relentless and drives me barmy on occasion. The only time he is still is if he’s watching TV. I’m tempted to get him on to computer games if only only for the peace! (We don’t presently have one as he’s never asked for one and I wouldn’t know where to begin).

I really does feel like an assault on the senses. On the other hand - it’s a young boy full of life and energy and i feel so guilty at sometimes thinking “shut the fuck up!” (Don’t get me wrong - I don’t hold back from telling him to calm down, just not quite like that!, but it really feels like it’s beginning to dominate our interaction.)

Anyone else in similar boat?

My son is like this, he has asd. I feel for you

My DD is 11 and talks so fast and so loudly at home....yet at friends/school she’s as quiet as a mouse. She will re-tell a story and not stop for a breath for what seems an eternity!! I feel like I’m constantly telling her to slow down and quieten down, which she will do for 30 seconds and then the volume and speed return! Arghhh it’s exhausting but she’s mine and i love her 😀

Actually I've just read your responses and he sounds a lot like my boy. Sporty, very intelligent, can be hyper focused, disorganised, chatty (polite, excellent vocabulary.

It does sound as if he is stimming though. Have you considered asd?

Same @snowball28! Mario obsessed, he completed it quite quickly for a 5yo and is really good at it. It's the only thing he can concentrate for! But like you he has to be restricted as he gets addicted

My dd is also like this. I have to ask her to stop talking as well.
I can't concentrate on anything anyone says.
But is it adhd or just exuberance!!

I've had lots of issues in the car, esp with dh as he can't ask her too stop talking.
Screens have been my saviours as well.

I wonder how many posters looked at this title and smiled? Am with you!

* I wonder how many posters looked at this title and smiled?*

Smiled? Nodded perhaps!

My dd8 is always singing, making noises and sounding like an elephant pounding up the stairs .
It’s annoying but luckily she stops (for about 10 minutes ) when I ask .
She has a super short attention span , the only time she sat and watched a whole film it was Labyrinth so she obviously has taste but there’s only so many times I can watch it!

Children with ADHD or ASD can mask it in school though.
Given the disorganisation and the constant movement it would be worth investigating ADHD.

If he is very focused and polite at school then perhaps this is just the ‘fallout’ from him having to restrain himself all day?
I have a 9 year old who is similar. I’m pretty certain that he has no additional needs. I’m also fairly certain that 9 year old human children’s natural habitat isn’t in a classroom for so many hours a day.
He actually sounds very normal to me, in fact he sounds great (though I totally get how exhausting it is for you at the end of a long day yourself!)
Two things that work for us when my ds hits hyper. First is a snack and a drink of water...sometimes when hungry or thirsty it sends him into overload...second is I make him go for a bounce on the trampoline...in all weather except rain! They have soooooo much pent up energy at this age and are forced to hold it all in at school.
Fwiw Computer games make my son worse, so they might not be ideal.
Actually come to think of it audio books sometimes help as they can listen AND do something like. Puzzle or lego at the same time.

And what does everyone do with their lovely hyper children at bedtime?? When they're being really silly and making noises and just WON'T STOP and it's getting late? oh, and they share a room with their younger sibling...who needs to sleep

Apart from shouting "GO THE F#&K TO SLEEP!"?

I have a ten year old DS with ADHD and he can't even sit still when he watches tv or plays video games! He wanders around, up and down. Hums or sings all the time, the same song for weeks and weeks until a new one goes into his head. Always fidgeting and picking stuff up, then having no idea where he put it, can't remember an instruction for more than five seconds, completely disorganised (he's going to need a lot of help packing his back when he first starts secondary school!) and totally messy.

But, he's also loads of fun, an absolute mine of information (remembers loads of random fun facts), incredibly bright, loves his sports and very popular with his peers (despite being a bit 'quirky').

I've come to suspect that I might also have adhd. I was almost exactly like him as a child (much less confident though), but my parents were so nit picking about everything I did that I got very anxious and suffered with severe depression and anxiety in my teens and twenties. I try to let DS celebrate who he is as he's fab (if exhausting and bloody infuriating at times).

My son can be a bit like this especially the constantly talking and making noise. He also doesn't really play with toys. We find limited time on the PS4 does help calm down the house and let's the other DC get some airtime. If you do want to get a console we have found that Minecraft is quite creative and FIFA has been great and we all have a go - football matches against Dad and other relatives when they come to stay etc. So it can be quite beneficial.

My DD (10) is the same. Constant dancing, fidgeting, spinning, inability to sit still for 5 seconds, constant chattering - I think it's pretty standard.

This gives me hope, if it is standard thank goodness! I think it is just me. I am an introvert and quite sensitive....

I was this child.
Give me him loads of books, Meccano, chemistry sets, stuff like that.

We get DD into as many activities as possible. Lots of after school PE clubs, etc.