To hate homemade gifts

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New thread with the vote enabled this time!

Unless the giver is actually good enough at making what ever it is to sell then I wish they just wouldn’t give homemade stuff, especially food

Fortunately I don’t generally receive them but I have a friend who’s a teacher who’s inundated with them at Christmas

It just seems such a waste as it pretty much all gets binned

YANBU. It’s lazy and selfish

What a dick comment this is.

I quite agree karala

I prefer homemade gifts. I've given a lot of shop bought gifts to charity as it's mostly things I don't need in a load of plastic packaging. Synthetic fragranced items also give me a migraine. I much prefer thoughtfully made gifts like nice natural soaps, biscuits, jams, knitted items etc.

After eight vodka sounds pretty awful, sorry! I'd prefer a shop bought bottle of vodka and a box of after eights!

look at the success of MN Woolly Hugs - those blankets are a work of art and love

They are also:

Beautiful
Fit for purpose
Useful

Sadly, the majority of homemade gifts do not meet these criteria. IIRC, WH recipients are asked if they would like a blanket, aren't they?

WH are also given with no expectations, rather than given in exchange for something that you forked out £30 and stood in a queue for.

ifIwerenotanandroid Thank you!

A homemade gift is actually the least lazy gift you can receive.

If it’s done well I like them but have had some seriously dodgy ones ! Chocolates with dog hair on. Skittles vodka that was absolutely disgusting and made with Morrison’s own vodka (label Not even peeled off properly!) which I would never touch. Candles which looked like a four year old made them. Then you have to gush over it . It would have been easier for the giver to go to Home Bargains and buy a two Quid candle or box of Maltesers or something , I don’t get it ? Unless it’s someone under the age of about 13 giving it in which case it’s pretty sweet.

I voted YABU because YABAB wasn’t an
option.

These threads are always just SO nasty, unnecessary & hurtful. Quite a few people on MN make gifts as they can’t afford to buy them or because they’re largely housebound etc.

These threads just hurt some of the more vulnerable people - all so people like you can be snobby & sneery.

And no, I generally do not give homemade gifts - they’re too time consuming to make.

And yes, some people are not incredibly talented, but it’s the thought that counts.

And yes, if it’s ‘this months new hobby so everyone is getting a hand painted yogurt pot’ it lacks some personal thought, but at least they have thought of you

I’d rather get a handmade gift from someone lovely, than any gift from someone with your nasty attitude. 🤷🏻‍♀️

TiceCream by ‘regifting’ I mean donating to our village fete/Christmas bazaar...

I’ve given them 3 light boxes in 2 years. Not home made gifts, but wanky just the same (unless you’re a 10 year old girl).

I have found my people.

There is a great Josh Widdicombe sketch about this.

Home-made gifts are typically given because teh giver likes making them rather than thinking about i fetch receiver would like to receive them. Top tip for those who make gifts- they would not like to receive them

You cant send them to the charity shop and no EU label and the food bank won't take them- so it is the bin every time.

We say no gifts and mean no gifts- it doesn't edna no gifts except the cheese board with our name on it- unusual name- not one for the charity shop- the oil of the wood was quite spectacular as it ended it is life in woodburner.

A homemade gift is actually the least lazy gift you can receive

I disagree. It takes far more effort and time to go and shop for something the person will love and appreciate compared to sticking extras in vodka and gifting to every man and his dog.

I’d quite like to see a correlation between the people who click on YANBU and precious, entitled gits.......

Ooh! Ooh! Buy some cheap mugs (B&M have loads), pop in a sachet of hot chocolate and some mini marshmallows and finish with a lovely ribbon!

I love your response. It is not the 1830s, most pope have milk, hot chocolate and a mug. There is no way in which this is a treat.

Juts more cheap tat.

Lazy and selfish ??? To make gifts??? Really???

I made my eldest daughter a quilt for her 21st, incorporating fabrics from some of her childhood bedding, and I love making them as gifts for friends. Most recently I made a lap quilt for a friend having cancer treatment.

I'm reasonably competent though- I can understand why you'd be (politely) underwhelmed by framed scrabble letters. Also, I wouldn't give my work to anyone who had never expressed an interest: most of the pleasure in doing it is knowing how much the recipient will enjoy it.

A homemade gift is actually the least lazy gift you can receive

They are usually both lazy (one size fits all) and selfish (made because the giver likes making things)

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss Sticking extras in vodka doesn't count surely.

Lazy and selfish ??? To make gifts??? Really???

Yes- incredibly selfish, usually done to give the giver joy doing something they enjoy rather than considering the receiver.

I say usually as there are exceptions- those exceptions are not hot chocolate mugs, chocolate bark (don't get me started) , biscuits in a jar or any kind of sweets dissolved in cheap gin/vodka.

the quilts all look lovely.

@isspacethefinalfrontier Is it also selfish when someone goes and shops for a gift 'because they like to buy things'

Please, there are better arguements than this.

I make table centrepieces - Christmas themed, fresh combined with some artificial, pheasant feathers etc.

They go for between £20-40 in the shops, and last the whole festive period.

I’ve done hand-made gifts for neighbours/work friends for years and they often ask if I can do something for their mum/auntie/sister etc.

I guess different types of people like different things.

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss Sticking extras in vodka doesn't count surely.

So you ruin the sweets and the vodka. No-one wants crappy drinks.

The quilts and blankets are lovely . It takes a lot of time and skill to make that and you can keep it forever even if you just snuggle with it on the sofa and pop it away in the day time.

It’s the 4 homemade shortbreads in cellophane I am wary of. How much effort does that take, not much, and I am really weird about eating from homes where I’ve never been. Maybe I’m a freak

I suppose as with any gift, it depends entirely on how well it's chosen and if the giver knows the recipient's taste... I've been given many shop bought gifts I didn't like at all and actually would rather not receive anything or be given a gift card (or a charity donation) instead. The whole gifting culture is a bit bonkers for adults, why spend all that money on exchanging gifts when you could instead both buy something you actually like, for yourself.

I don't like homemade food gifts (I'm funny about food hygiene...) but otherwise I appreciate the time someone will have taken to make it for me. I occasionally gift handmade if I know it's wanted, for example a friend likes specific kind of beaded earrings which I'm good at making.

some artificial, pheasant feathers

Honestly that sounds hideous. What is wrong with genuine pheasant feathers- much better for the environment.