Putting cups back into cupboard upside down

[Duggeeismysaviour]

When they stay at ours (live abroad) , my in laws insist on putting cups and mugs back in the cupboard upside down, despite everything else in there being upright.

When I help out in any friend or relatives house, I go with the system they have.

Every time I open the cupboard and see one or two lone cups upside down, I have to quell the rage. It's like a passive aggressive "our way is the right way". Trust me, it's deliberate as they are extremely organised tidy people, who don't do things unthinkingly, like throwing a few cups into the cupboard.

This is sort of light hearted! And I know, many people will be along shortly to point out that I should be grateful for the help I get, and I truly am. But I cannot get past it, and I think it's because of the way they are and their personalities, which are quite unintentionally domineering. I honestly start to feel a little like a child in my own home when they are here. This, without further long explanation regarding their personalities, is perhaps why it gets to me so much.

Would this bother anyone else? How can I let it go before I snap in a pregnant hormonal rage?!!!

@nocluewhattodoo the fact that they have asked OP not to stack cups upright in their own kitchen cupboards suggests that they are doing this very consciously.

@bumfuzzled - your mum is v sensible checking under the loo seat. I also recommend checking inside shoes before you put your foot in! 🕷

Surely if dust can settle on mugs and cups then it’s settling in the cupboard too, so when placing in upside down you’re just putting the rim into the same dust?!
Either way, your ILs seem annoying. It would mildly irritate me.

Exactly my thing @Fragglerock

At least with upright the glasses get an airing.

Mine were always the right way up. Until the day I went to throw my teabag into the mug and the biggest MoFo spider was sat there waving at me.

Upside down for the win!

Some people must have very dirty cupboards if storing upside down makes mugs smell and leaves lip dirty. Always stored upside down never noticed a smell or muck on rim but if right way round can see how bugs/dust can get in. But really couldn't get myself worked up about it.

My PIL re-arrange the cutlery drawer when they stay. Pisses me off every time

My cups are angled and the only way to fit them all in is alternately upright and upside down. And there are no spiders in my cupboards, nor so many mugs that most of them don't find their way through the dishwasher every 48 hours or so.

If you put them upside down then you don't drop your favourite mug and smash it to smithereens when you pull it out and find a big fuck off spider has taken up residence inside it.

@Nat6999 I have those mats that go under washing up bowls on the shelf surface to keep the rims clean.

I have to ask... so what's keeping the mats clean that couldn't be done to the shelf to keep it clean? (thus negating the need for the mats)

At least they don't do a catsbum mouth at you when you decline their millionth suggestion of using a mug tree.

Ps I have mine the right way up - I have a variety of shapes, so some fit inside / on top of others.

Urgh I hate people moving my stuff so wouldn't want my in laws doing this.
MIL always puts the throws we keep on the arm of the sofas across the cushions at the back, and rearranges the tea and coffee canisters. It really annoys me.

The only place I ever see cups stored upside down is in holiday apartments.

Every body I know stores them open part upwards. How do spiders even get into your cupboards if there is a door on?

Also mugs go the right way up, no stale air trapped in them.
If a spider or other creature goes in then that's a good thing surely as it's caught itself.

@shinynewapple they just open the doors of course.

You’d hate me - I store my glasses alternately so you can slot more in. And the mug cupboard is upside down on the base, with a right way up mug on top.

Mine are far wider at the top than the bottom so fit nicely into the cupboard when I alternate them. They look a bit like //\//\

It annoys me that visitors don't stick to my system as then one mug doesn't fit.

Glasses alternately too! Except the posh crystal wedding presents which should be stored the right way up. Mugs upside down in cupboard to stack more on top.

Cringed just reading the title. Can't stand cups and mugs being stored upside down, leaves a horrible smell so they always need rewashing.

How do spiders even get into your cupboards if there is a door on?

I don't wish to know. We have one in residence in the cutlery drawer at the moment, I've been forced to empty it. Thankfully he's only tiny.

Traps stale air??

🤣🤣🤣

I always keep my cups upside down now.

Ever since the incident of the mug and the massive fucking tarantula spider. It scarred me.

Youi're bonkers and petty, op. Who cares?
Certainly nothing to be upset about. I doubt they even think about it or notice.

@GlmPmum Ha this reminds me of one of my exes dad. He would have everyone tin cup etc perfectly lined up in the cupboards, even folded his carrier bags.

I'm lost...who doesn't fold their carrier bags?

The OP isn't being bonkers and petty about cups. She's objecting to visitors seeing fit to deliberately change the way stuff is stored in her house (a perfectly reasonable objection imo). It's not as if they aren't doing it on purpose!

I'm with the right-way-up crowd. There are no bugs in my cupboards.