To insist that exH rectify this?

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Exh has our dd every other weekend. She is almost 8 and very well behaved. She came home after a visit and used the word 'crap' to say that something was rubbish. Apparently she had heard ex H's teenage stepson using this word. AIBU to message him asking that he make sure this never happens again?

She stated that we must immediately rectify the situation, dd is only little and dp must give assurances that this will never happen again. She said she was VERY concerned and dd must not be exposed to such language.

Sorry - I realise some people dislike reverse threads. Not intentionally wasting your time, just wanted honest reactions. Thank you for all the responses.

just reply that you will endeavor to encourage teenage son not to use the word crap. Then laugh lots

If that is the worst thing her 8 year old has picked up by now then she is very lucky.

She's being far too precious here. To me crap isn't really a swear word.

Just thank your stars its between her mum and dad and you don’t have to get involved😊

She will hear much worse in school. It’s just a word and I think it’s important that children hear all words and understand their meaning. She is old enough to understand it’s a word she shouldn’t use.

On the other hand, it’s perfectly ok for a teenage boy to use this language amounts this friends. He should maybe watch what he says front of little ones though. But really no harm done.

Actually, I'd message back saying that from now on your DS will only refer to poo or excrement in their obviously refined company.

Then have a good joke about it with DS.

I didn't justify anything to her because I don't see this as a real concern. My parenting isn't anything to do with her. Glad I'm not being unreasonable.

I don’t understand why the need to make this a reverse. People are going to have the same opinion one way or another, and reverses usually get deleted so wtf is the point?

FWIW, my DS went away with his cousins of the same age and somehow they heard him playing a song which had the f word in it. It was entirely unintentional and wasn’t a part of conversation or anything, but one of the cousins repeated the word at home and their dad went bellistic. Meh, these things happen. And my eXH whose side of the family this was on thought that he had gone way OTT and that the DC will hear far worse in the playground but their dad is adamant they never have or never will.... . I did point out to DS that he needs to be a bit careful re language around the younger DC, but that was it.

I'm not sure why this thread would get deleted tbh. I was just genuinely interested and was honest early on.

The 8yo will hear worse on children’s telly!

Just nod and ignore.

I hope your dp isn’t going to get heavy with your son..

I'm not sure why this thread would get deleted tbh.

Because reverse threads are not allowed.

Absolutely not, DP is on my side. I would not be with someone who didn't treat my children well. It is my role to discipline. The relationship with him and ex is acrimonious so this is one in a line of things. She once stopped contact for a month because dp bought a fake poo bath toy. He had to go to court. I'm just worried she will start on my DC.

I see. Well report me if you are upset by it. I was not aware.

My daughter comes home from her father's having heard much worse than that. We've had a conversation along the lines of they are grown up words and she's not to repeat them. She's old enough to know that they are rude and she shouldn't say them and as far as I'm aware she doesnt, although I'm not naive enough to think she wont let one slip now and again!

My 5 year old said 'that's shit' today omg kill me now 🙈🙈🙈 so crap would be amazing for me lol

DH finds it hilarious that it was me who accidentally taught DS his first swear word. As in "Bollocks, we're late for school."

I'm sure she's heard worse already.

Don't get the thread deleted! It is funny.

Omg people act like if children hear a swear word they will disintegrate and die. She can just say dont say it, I wont lie, I swear all the time but my DS knows not to repeat plus we attend football alot where all you can her is swearing, she needs to get the fuck over it.

Glad to hear it, your ds hasn’t done anything wrong, but yes it sounds like the ex is looking for any excuse to get at her ex and at you.

Reverse threads aren’t forbidden afaik, TAAT yes.

Never heard of reverse thread ban
How stupid, the ex is nit picking

I didn't think so, though I know they annoy some people. She is nitpicking. I had to think long and hard before moving in with dp, because I knew that would happen.

ChloeDecker

Since when are reverse threads not allowed?

😂😂 my friends kid came out of nursery the other day and when asked how his day was replied ‘fuuuucking hell!’ Now that’s bad at that age. Tut tut. But crap, at 8? Surely she just says ‘scuse me, just because other people think those words are ok, doesn’t mean I do, don’t say that.’ And it’s dealt with?

I think we have a name changing swear troll in our midst!