To ask what your relationship with your siblings is like

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Have a very poor relationship with one of my siblings and get on with one.

Eldest of 4 - 2 of each. Love them to bits and we’re very close as too are our kids, probably due to our tricky childhood experiences. I know we’re considered unusual but it’s just how we’ve grown up and been there for each other. That’s not to say we don’t argue!

We send a happy birthday message to each other and that's about all the contact we have. We have nothing in common and don't have anything to talk about. After I had my son she invited me to her house, went round and she didn't even offer me a drink and we sat in silence for about an hour once the pleasantries were out of the way so not in a big rush to go round there again.

I love my siblings but I am the oldest and there are massive age gaps (10+ and 20+ years) so we don’t have a sibling relationship, more of an Aunty and niece/ nephew relationship.

Like a PP with similar age gaps, I often feel like an only child.

We're very close. We had an weird, itinerant and very sad childhood - the sort of shared experiences that bind you together. We live in different countries but speak at least weekly.

I'm one of four, have an older brother who I'm NC with, which is sad and I'm very conflicted about it. I have an older sister who is quite immature and materialistic and we're very different, but I love her and feel slightly protective of her as she's quite vulnerable. I also have a younger brother (ASD) who is sweet but has a lazy bitch of a wife and again I feel protective of him but do my best to bite my tongue.
Sometimes I think having difficult relationships with parents doesn't help. My Dad was largely absent and hugely favours my older sister. My Mum does her best but is complicated and can be quite controlling so I think that can be divisive.

Having said all of this, if any of them needed me, I would be there. 😐

Didn't get on as kids as there was a reasonable age gap, but now we get on brilliantly. It's been one of the great pleasures of my adult life seeing my children spend time with their cousins and love them. We all go on holiday together with DPs every couple of years and it's brilliant . . . . makes the kids feel like they're part of something bigger than just our little nuclear family, they feel secure having uncles, aunts and cousins who love them.

My sister is 18 months younger than me and we text every day. She makes the effort to come up and see DS even though we're hundreds of miles apart.

If we weren't siblings, I doubt we would be friends.

Really close to all four of them. We live far apart but call each other daily.

I can't wait for us all to get together at Christmas.

We're all very different and there's quite a few years between us too. I know that my siblings would spend their last penny on me if I needed it and I would for them.

OH is distant with his own sister though I. They only speak when she comes to visit. I speak to her weekly via text, and the come for birthdays and vice versa. All of this is only ever organised by me - she’s lovely but due to their mothers learning difficulties both her and my husband received really different treatment growing up. My husband was sent at the age of 13, due to having anger issues and falling in with a local gang, to live with distant but wealthy cousins in south London where he was basically privately educated and is now an architect. SIL stayed at home, and attended the local comp whilst acting as a carer for MIL, she is now unemployed and lives in a two bed council house with MIL and her daughter. OH isn’t close to his mum either. Both OH and SIL are jealous of each other. SIL that she feels
She was denied the opportunity to develop in her education etc and OH in that he feels he was just cast aside by his mum as a time he needed her.

My older dB is my absolute rock and best friend, and we have been like this since we were kids.
No weird childhood or trauma.. Very normal family.. Just always adored each other

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I have 5 sisters. We are all very close in age (oldest nearly 60, youngest 53). We have always been scattered around this country and others after being in care when we were younger. We are friendly, keep in touch daily on social media, meet up maybe once a year and we always have a good time. We would drop everything if one of us needed help, we get on with all BILs, but I wouldn't say we are close emotionally. Probably more like a long standing group of friends.

Just me and my brother, he’s 5 years younger than me but we are so close. Love him to bits.

We get on well enough, but don't really talk much. We have never been close really

One brother 5yrs younger who I have been NC with for over 30yrs. Brother who is 18yrs younger I love to bits. We are really close and contact each other almost daily.

2 older brothers nd an older sister. The 4 of us are very very close. We mind each others kids. We all live in the same area. We meet up every Sunday for lunch with our kids and partners.
Can't imagine not speaking to them it would kill me

So-so with my twin, we are very LC. OK with my brother.

One DB there are two years between us, we see each other 1-2 times a year, nothing particularly to say to each other, nothing really in common, he can be a bit of an arsehole and very entitled but he gets put back in his box?

Two DSis (DT’s) 8 years between us (I’m the oldest) speak mostly via WhatsApp, not got lots in common, they’re more into the whole family thing than I am. Having said that, I’d do anything to help either of them if they were in trouble and we get along fine when we do see each other.

I’m adopted and have never really felt as if I’ve fitted in, even though I’m the oldest.

Mine is fine if a bit awkward. We’re less than two years apart and were really close as kids but as I’ve now got kids myself and she doesn’t and is still more about holidays, nights out and expensive bags we don’t have that much in common anymore so not that much to really talk about! It’s sad.

I’m number 5 of 7. Most of us were sent off to boarding school. We’re not close. We’ve become closer since our DM died last year. I’d like to get to know them better but 40 years of being played off against one another is hard to get past but we are trying.

I’m one of 4 girls. The first 3 of us very close in age. I’m not close with my oldest sister, she lives abroad and never reaches out to make contact unless she wants something. I’m sick of being used.
I’m very close, best friends, with next sister, we are quite similar and akwats shared a room growing up and by the time we were teenages we shared friends and our social lives.
Youngest sister is so different to me and so self absorbed. I only ever see her at Christmas with little to no contact in between.
I wish we could all be closer but it takes two to keep a relationship going. I mourn the relationships I wish we had.

have one brother who fell out with everyone in close family and moved to Wales building im told a huge place with corridors and small rooms protected by concrete. Told his sons hed disinherit them if they contacted anyone in family in any way. 30 years ago, dont even know if hes still alive

Have 2 older sisters. I love them both from a distance. One is an addict and her sense.of entitlement is astounding. Very selfish. The other sister is entitled also and not a very clean person.

Not particularly close, no fallings out but we are just very different sorts of people, meet up once or twice a year, shame as I don’t really have much of a relationship with nieces and nephews.

I have two brothers and one sister all older. Unfortunately as we all have busy lives and don't live that close we don't see each other a lot but I would do anything for them and they would for me. We want away as a family last weekend and it was fantastic to all spend time together.