To ask what your relationship with your siblings is like

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Have a very poor relationship with one of my siblings and get on with one.

Named changed to say I have two siblings, a good relationship with one which the other one clearly finds difficult and is affecting our relationship with each other. I know that once both parents are gone, there will be nothing for them to ever be in touch about and I can't imagine how I will deal with that. More therapy perhaps.

I have an older brother who I get on extremely well with, but I don’t see him very often because he’s in the army.

I have one db.We are close as in we ring each other to catch up tell each other our problems but we only see each other 3 or so times a year due to distance,our love and bond is strong though.Dh has 3 siblings in the same village, he speaks and sees 1 ds regularly,db doesnt see often but speaks to on phone and hes nc with other ds.I always say hes lucky to have all his family within 5 mins drive away.

We are very different people, with very different lives and outlooks. I went away to university in the big city and then on to a professional career. I never really went back to our home town, he never really left it.

We get on fine when we meet up, which is infrequently. He is a good guy with a lovely family but the reality is that we no longer have much in common, and if we were not siblings we wouldn't be friends.

My sibling and I were just a year apart in age and absolutely the very best of friends all of our lives. They got cancer and were gone inside 3 months. I'm devastated; in such pain but consider myself so lucky for what we had. My promise to them is to live well in their honour, appreciating moment because they can't.

NC for 15 years. Life is better without toxic people in your life.

I have 3. They are my best friends and greatest support.

I feel lucky to have my sister after reading this thread.

She’s 3 years younger and we’re both in our 20s so regularly go out together or she will come to mine for food and wine. She’s really good to me and minds my animals if I go away or if I’m stuck at work unexpectedly. I hope we stay close if we end up marrying/having kids or one of us moves away.

I have 5 siblings, I'm the youngest.
I get on with all of them. I see my sister's all the time. My brothers are a bit lazy at keeping in touch.

They’re my best friends (DS and DB). We lost our other sister and her loss taught us that every stupid fight we had as youngsters doesn’t matter. We are different but the same where it counts, eg temperament, morals etc so it’s a very easy relationship.

Love mine - I'm the eldest
I have DBRO1 & 2 then DSIs which is 9 years my junior

We have just found out she has stage 4 lung cancer (34 and a non smoker) it's pulled us that more closer
I fought like cat & dog with DBRO1 when we were younger, love the bones of him now (as I do the other 2)

NC with my sister.

She had problems since childhood which impacted on how she was with me from a young age. I had same experiences but dealt with them by talking - she did not and became more violent and manipulative.

She is now a MH nurse... hope it helped her

We get on fine. (Am now one of 3). Not in each other's pockets - all have our own families and lives and friends - but invite each other to family occasion get togethers, see each other at Christmas and (for the one who doesn't live locally) a couple of other times a year. (Local one I see more often, but more 'in passing'). Would all be there in a heartbeat for each other if anyone were in need, but not in the category of "best friends" as so many others say.

Don’t speak to mine. She practically stole my half of investment which our parents made for us, for our future. Our relationship was never amazing but now she just doesn’t exist as far as I’m concerned.

Not bad but not great. We're all different people who wouldn't be friends if we weren't siblings. We don't live near each other and don't really stay in touch but don't argue or anything when we do see each other (normally just once a year at Christmas).

I'd like to have a sibling I'm close to, but I can't be close to the siblings I have. Neither are unpleasant or horrible people, the comparison I'd make is that they're like a co-worker you get on fine with but have no desire to spend any extra time with.

I tolerate them, that's it.
We are colleagues I guess.
They've both been really shitty in different ways but I see the bigger picture and ensure that cousins etc are close.. And I would say they're the same..

I wouldn't trust either of them, at least with my feelings so it's hard to generate closeness and probably too late.

Nothing in common....a 7 year gap and a 30 year gap .....same father new lovely wife .
7 year gap .....I was leaving home they were only 10 and we don't communicate at all since our parents nasty divorce.
30 year gap....we lives 100s miles apart so don't see each other that often especially since my own children have grown up...and rarely communicate.
I'm essentially an only child

We are all in our 50s , one is and always has been my best friend and the other I’m also close to , but she has less in common with us .

I'm pretty close with my DB. He's 4 years younger than me and we are in regular contact. We text/chat every few days and meet up once a week/fortnight for a catch up. He also adores my son

We're close, but don't share every single details, go out together, etc. It's weird really

NC. We were never particularly close, although only 18 months between us. She nearly always got her own way growing up, was & still is selfish. But DM won't hear a word against her, she can do no wrong & they are very close.

One is like a close friend but get on great with all my brothers and sisters. There's seven of us left, one died in his teens and I think that makes us appreciate each other more. I see them all regularly and we all meet up for meals as a family every couple of months. There's usually around thirty of us with our DC. We recently planned our DM's funeral without a single cross word. If I rang any of them for help every one of them would be there as soon as they could. My sister dropped everything when she heard I'd been rushed into theatre, driving all night to get to me. I woke up after days on life support in icu to see her by my bedside despite living hundreds of miles away. I know I'm very fortunate to have them.

I have one sister who is 3 years younger than me and a brother who is 11 years younger. We all get on well together although I live around 250 miles away from them as my DH and I moved away from the SE to the SW 30 years ago. We have done holidays together and they come down and visit us and vice versa. We see each other around 4 times a year and have done a week away together this year and next year my brother is coming on a long haul holiday for 3 weeks with me and DH. I did a holiday with my sister a few years back and she did one last year with my brother. We all have our own lives and family except brother who is single but in times of stress we support each other.

DB is 5 years younger, we live about a 4-5 hour drive from each other. We get on fine but have little in common, just very different people. We see each other maybe once a year and speak a handful of times, exchange the odd text here and there. We could rely on each other in a crisis (I think!) but are sadly not very close at all.

I have 3 brothers and we are fairly close in age and get on well although do not live in each others pockets. We have had family holidays all together and would alternate Christmases to all be together alternate years. My big brother who was only a year older than me, passed away this week after battling a brain tumour. It was not really until the last couple of weeks as I helped to nurse him that it really dawned on me how much he meant to me and how much I will miss him. It is sad reading about so many people having so little contact with siblings.