To not get up with baby?

[Pomley]

I'm pretty sure I'm not being unreasonable, but as I can't comprehend the lazyness perhaps I am!

DH works away all week, so I do everything around the house and for DS, I'm on maternity leave at the moment but going back to work soon. It was my choice to not move by his work, but it's still hard but I love DS and make the most of the time in the week where it's just us 2. Weekends I usually end up doing most things as he's been at work, which has me close to leaving him anyway. But last night I have been in the loo for most of the night, without being too much for a Sunday morning it hasn't been pleasant, and I hope it's something I've eaten rather than a bug. I'm in the spare room, and I can hear that DS is awake (but happy at the moment, I'll obviously go in if he is upset), and DH is awake. But no nappy change, no getting milk, he is obviously waiting for me to get up and do it.

Is it U to think that he could, for one morning, actually look after his son? And me, getting to my limit and thinking hard about leaving, even though we've just bought a house?

It’s really good to hear from a woman in such a secure financial position. Make the most of it! You’re not tied to staying with him
Due to finances, he’s not pulling hus weight, he doesn’t seem to give a shit about you or DS, he chose to take a lesser job when he knew you wouldn’t move ... he chose to live alone all week and not with you and DS and when he is home he’s not being part of the family he’s expecting you to look after DS & run around after him...

Get those wheels turning, the sooner you start, the sooner it’ll be done & you can get yourself sorted ...and be happier. 🌷

Plan what you would like to do for Christmas 🎄 🎁

And think about the house... just bear in mind the stamp duty & other costs of moving and that it’s lovely to have the space to grow in to and for people to stay etc but if you don’t live the house then yes, it’s a great opportunity to buy something you love!

He does need to understand you reap what you sow.
Dh has never been hands on with our 3 dds and had just had an op and is in hospital. The kids do not appear to have missed him at all and have been really reluctant to visit.

Thanks everyone, DS has had a fun day at grannys and we have had a chat (and me some sleep!). We will see what happens, I'm a much bigger fan of actions rather than words.

You are so lucky that your baby sleeps through the night. If he lies there for another 5 minutes until the baby indicates that he/she really wants up, that’s fine FFS. As if a little bit longer is going to make any difference re nappy rash.

@StreetwiseHercules but why? One day since he has been born I've asked if he will get up with him, why should DS be left awake until he is upset just because he can't be arsed to get out of bed? If he didn't sleep through so we were woken several times in the night then I would understand the precious rest in the morning, but he was in bed by 10pm so had over 9 hours sleep at this point.

OP...your can handle this ..you sound like such a smart switched on lady..Keep going! I hope he sees sense otherwise he will spend a lot of time missing you both.