To think it's not ok to get pissed whilst hosting a sleepover

[Jumanji89]

Last night my DS 10 was at a sleepover at his best friends. We know the parents pretty well so had no concerns. His friends sister (7) also had a friend over so all seemed normal. This morning we went to pick up ds and it looked like there had been a party and a lot of empty alcohol containers. I asked whether there had been a party and they said they had a few friends over and were absolutely hanging. When we got home my ds confirmed the parents had got drunk despite having my ds and their dds friend over and that in the middle of the night both had been throwing up. I'm absolutely furious and don't know whether I should confront them and/or tell the other child parents as well or if I'm making too big a deal about it. Personally I wouldn't dream of consuming alcohol when responsible for other people's children and feel that they should have been more responsible. If there was an accident or emergency they were in no fit state to deal with it.

It wouldn’t be a massive issue for me as long as the children weren’t overhearing swearing or aggressive behaviour, but we live in a city so lots of families don’t have cars and in an emergency you would call an ambulance or hop in a taxi. Being over the drink drive limit doesn’t mean you can’t safely deal with an emergency. You could be quite clear headed and be over the drink drive limit.

I would have been furious, I wouldn’t drink if responsible for my own children let alone some one else’s.

I think that they had the sleepover because they were having friends over (and knew that they would be drinking a lot) so thought it more likely that their own kids would have be settled if they had friends there. In other words your son and the other 7 year old were "babysitting" your friends children. Not acceptable at all.

I would quietly be stopping sleepovers, as you are doing, but not raising it with the drunken parents yet.

If you see the parents of the 7 year old, you can then casually mention that it was a shame the sleepover went so wrong with the host family being ill after their party. Then the 7 year olds parents are in the know and can make their own mind up. No need to express your opinion, unless you want to, but just make sure that they are in the know. . . .