5 weeks pp, school run, feeding twins...

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Posting for traffic, not an Aibu unless its Aibu to be stressed about this.

DH will be back at work at latest 5 wks pp. I have 4 yo to get to and from school. 20 minutes walk each way, plus the usual faff in the middle dropping him off, talking to 121 etc. He's on o2 so I go into the cloakroom and hand him over not just dump at the gate and run. So essentially an hour each way.

But what do I do if they start screaming for a feed 10 minutes into the walk? I can't really leave them til we get home.

Surely they're too young to be got into a feeding regime?

I could sit in Re eptiom after drop off and feed them but if I have to do that either side I'll basically never leave!!

Anyone got any advice or reassurance??

at grumpyhoonmain's intervention - according to her posts on other threads she is pregnant with her first, but seems to spend all her time telling everyone else that they're parenting wrong... Good luck!

@LisaSimpsonsbff - how hurtful. I am pregnant with first child and have 2 adopted DN (one from birth and one as a toddler).

@Butterfly02 yes to the baby grows. DH doesn't understand why we need so many. I think if he was home washing them everyday he'd get it!! Yes to DLA, amazing community nurse who made sure we applied as early as we could. Rest of advice also gratefully received.
Because we have 1 people think we know what we're doing but never had a newborn in my sole care, and now I'll have 2. Helps to know people have got through it with sanity in tact 🤣

@ActualHornist here hoping the cold winter air makes them sleep!! I'm doubling them up in the pram to start with so hoping that'll help.

Yes will def do school run with DH @BLONDEPHANTOM, not sure the s hook Mom's will last that long without a peak Tbh 🤣

@Mummycrankypants I'll take a look, idrf want to try, just worry about milk coming in at 36 weeks, there's no sign at all at 32 😩

You might need a Cs for the twins. You prob won't be physically able to do all of that 3 or 5 weeks pp.
Ask the school for options. You just have to.

I didnt meam a double sling to feed in. I meant ojr twin in a sling (so can feed in the go), twin 2 in the buggy (can switch babies if t2 needs a feed) and your older son on a buggy board.

I've don't this with one baby and older children and it's doable. Feeding in the sling on the move is hard to start with, but once youve got it, it's hugely liberating.

if ds still tube fed get more people trained up... I have supported a family where they had 3 in the school trained... who looks after his o2 in the morning of only 1:1 in the afternoon?
In most areas you should be able to apply for school travel assistance- due to his needs (wach area manages this diffenretly) as with teh o2 he coud not be expected to walk... or is he not on it all teh time?
look at your council website? - are you getting carers allowance if he mid rate DLA or above?
Talk to the school about someomne meeting you at the gate rather than going in.. and maybe start that before dt turn up
Sorry but you wil have to be organised! its the only way
if you cant get school transport then maybe talk to local taxi firm about a rate for a cab if you end up doing taht for a while...

some childminders will be ok with oxygen etc - just ask tehn dh could drop at CM to take into school...

Homestart can provide a helper once a week I believe, might be worth looking into? I used to feed my twins before the school run, they came home from hospital on three hourly feeds which helped!

@LisaSimpsonsbff - how hurtful. I am pregnant with first child and have 2 adopted DN (one from birth and one as a toddler).

Aren’t you the poster who definitely isn’t going to have a bad birth because, unlike all the other stupid women, you’ve made a birth plan?

Good luck with it all @SleepingStandingUp - one thing to remember (which you of course already know as you have a child) it might all be overwhelming now but you’ll cope when they arrive.

My partial solution to your problem stars with Cow and ends with Gate!

@monkeysox scheduled Cs in less than 4 weeks

@AVERYTHINLINE he is on it full time, we currnetly bus it there (time) and walk it back (tree hugging time) and he's never blooming still at school. Class has 1 teacher and several TA's so whoever has him for, say, phonics has responsibility for his o2 and hands it over to next teacher for say maths. Specified ta does morning greet, play time and lunch. 121 does lunch play, afternoon play and can do more focused stuff in his speech etc in pm. They wanted to reduce his dependence and make him more integrated into the class. It seems to work OK.

Will def speak to school about help

GrumpyHoonMain so when did you adopt them, in the last hour or something? Because according to your various countless posts they still live with your sister