DD is 20 months old. Last weekend she stayed with her grandparents for the first time (my Dad and his wife). This is because I'm near due DC2 and we wanted her to be ok about spending the night there for my going into hospital. Everything went well with DD staying over and we agreed to another overnight visit since it's DP's birthday in 2 weeks and again just to prepare her. I find this all very difficult because when they were parents to me they were beyond hopeless - it was an extremely lonely time and after a couple of years my school intervened and I moved out of their house. Them playing doting grandparents is very difficult for me, but I see that their relationship with DD is very different to my relationship with them, and if I ever felt that it was in someway not good for DD it would be over. I do have some issues with their childminding... when babysitting they forget about DC's basic needs, what to feed her, naps. When she is picked up, my stepmother never listens to me and so therefore misses stuff - like what to feed her (she has never offered to give her lunch so I always provide food). However, on the whole she is well looked after, but it's as though she is a toy and they want a shot. Earlier my Dad messaged asking if she can stay next weekend, I asked why and reminded him about the following weekend. Honestly, the request just feels odd! He came back saying they'll take her both weekends!! I went back saying no, and though it was nice for DP and I to have a night together we much prefer staying home as a family. AIBU to find this whole thing bizarre? Are they asking too much? I honestly have no idea how this whole grandparents thing is meant to work. I just know that I didn't have a family to drop them on the grandparents all the time.