I can’t even imagine what you’re all spending your money on!!! If you are indeed telling the truth. For those of you on 50k plus, do you donate a lot to charity?
Of my 90k basic, I pay around 30k in tax & NI. Another 5k or so goes to pension, 3k on travel to work.
So in my bank each month = £4,300.
£2200 goes on my half of mortgage, utilities, supermarket food shop etc. Housing in the south east is terrifically expensive.
£500 goes on my half of DS childcare bill.
I save £500 (currently on mat leave & using the savings to fund the gap between my bills & my maternity pay. When not on mat leave, this money is usually saved towards big items such as buying a car (altho we buy 2nd hand non premium brand and run cars into the ground), home improvements or new boiler etc.
£1,100 is left. About £300 a month I try to overpay to get the crippling mortgage down quicker.
It's surprisingly easy to get through a lot of the rest. Clothes etc for 2 DC. I've got a big family, lots of siblings, nieces and nephews, so lots of birthday and Christmas presents. Spread through the year it's probably £100 a month.
I end up buying lunches most days which can cost around £100 a month, making at home would be cheaper but I tend to prioritise time with the DC.
I donate some to charity via matched giving at work and constantly sponsoring friends running marathons etc.
The rest goes on clothes & shoes for myself, saving for holidays (centre parks outside school holidays, Cornwall in June, a week in a self catered in Spain or france) etc. The nice thing is having enough money so it's not a problem if there's a big car bill etc.
DH and I are relatively frugal, friends on similar incomes seem to spend a lot on car finance for posh cars (range rovers etc), gym memberships, very very expensive holidays and grooming/cosmetics, but then moan they have no savings. DH and I try to have 6 months worth of our mortgage & bills in savings. We value financial security over lifestyle spending.