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I know I am, but I still don't like it when MIL or my own mum...

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emkana · 19/08/2007 22:22

... point out things to me that my ds does as if this was the first time it was happening and as if I needed to be told.

I'm with him all day and I generally know what he's doing.

Still I appreciate they are just pleased and proud...

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mad4simon · 19/08/2007 22:26

I know what you mean. I hate it when people comment about my ds, the only one who gets away with it is my mum tho.

sleepycat · 19/08/2007 22:27

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emkana · 19/08/2007 22:29

no no I know I am wrong I know

it's just one of those things...

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Bubble99 · 19/08/2007 22:30

Please be kind to MILs.

I have four boys, no girls, and am dreading reading posts like this about me in years to come.

littlelapin · 19/08/2007 22:31

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Bubble99 · 19/08/2007 22:31

Because I will be the one getting stupidly tearful and proud of any DGCs.

mad4simon · 19/08/2007 22:32

bubble99 - my mum feels the same, she knows she can say what she likes to me about my ds, but won't feel comfortable doing that if my brother and his girlfriend have children.

Bubble99 · 19/08/2007 22:33

Oi! Enough of the MIL bashing, please.

(I'm sticking up for my future self, here.)

southeastastra · 19/08/2007 22:34

mils do go on

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Bubble99 · 19/08/2007 22:36

Exactly, mad4simon.

With four boys, I must be able to get on with at least one of their DP/DWs? [really hopeful emoticon]

Bigchic · 19/08/2007 22:37

Hello all! Are you bothered that my cat drinks wine? He is really into Rose wine. I can't sit and have a glass with out him going crazy for some. He drives me mad every time I have a glass he sits with his tongue in my glass, so now I put him a little dish of wine and also a dish of chinese take-away. He loves it!

Bubble99 · 19/08/2007 22:39

Ok, sleepycat.

Good god! What is wrong with me?

I'm now apologising for behaviour I might exhibit in the future.

sleepycat · 19/08/2007 22:42

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Bubble99 · 19/08/2007 22:46

Aw, thanks.

having all boys has made me kinder to my MIL (she had 2 boys, no girls) as I'm aware that I'm setting an example to my boys about getting on with MILs.

berolina · 19/08/2007 22:50

My MIL is a Very Nice Person Indeed - she's not got a nasty bone in her body (she is much nicer than me ) - but 'batty, intense, slightly possessive' really sums up how she is with dh - I can be sitting/stading right next to ds and she still lunges at him when she thinks I am going to let him fall off he sofa/into the duckpond etc. And she hovers.

berolina · 19/08/2007 22:50

how she is with ds, I mean.

Bubble99 · 19/08/2007 22:51

Hmm. I do have a few issues with my MIL about this, too.

She waited hand and foot on her boys and I refuse to do the same. My DS1 (nearly) ten year old will wet dust/antibac, while DS2 (7.5) hoovers ( OK, I have to re-hoover a lot of it, but he tries.)

Both of them fight to do the dusting

I refuse to bring up housework-shy men.

Shoshable · 19/08/2007 22:52

Bubble ther is hope I am a MIL to a DIL and she is brilliant, not having a daughter, she takes ME shopping, no kids yet, but when they come I am going to do what my mother said she did, 'whatever you think, or feel, dont do or say, they are their children not yours' wise woman my mother.

Bubble99 · 19/08/2007 22:55

Wise words indeed. I know my own mum had to bite her tongue a lot, and I'm her daughter, when I was clucking around DS1.

Shoshable · 19/08/2007 22:59

Plus we do gang up on DS and I do tend to take her side when it comes to housework, (especially when he sits on his backside playing playstation instead of hoovering, as for most of his young life there was only myself and DS, I didn't remarry till he had left home,) he had to help growing up, so sod if hes not now

Bubble99 · 19/08/2007 23:03

Oh I do hope I have some kind DILs.