Or is my mum?

[SapphireSeptember]

Kinda light hearted!

I'm going to a gig in London tomorrow, venue is a straightforward bus or tube journey from and to my hotel. (Hotel is in Camden, gig is in Kentish Town.) My mum (also on Mumsnet) has insisted I get a taxi back to my hotel. For context I am 31 and left home at 19, I also live miles away from my family. It's because she knows I'm going to be out and about, she also makes me text her when I get home after visiting my family. I also know it's because she cares about me and worries about me.

(I did say I was going to ask the nest of vipers, and my mum promised not to comment. Hello mummy! 💙 )

Sorry Mum, I'm with your adult daughter on this one!

You're 31, you choose how to travel.

Get a taxi. Hello Sapphire's mum

Tell her you will.

Then get the night tube and buy her a little pressure with the difference.

Actually just seen its Camden to KT - that's no distance!

Taxi unnecessary imo

How far will you have to walk

My DD (21) is going to London with two of her friends.

If I hear from her then all well and good, but if I don't I'll assume she's enjoying herself too much to text.

I have three DD's, eldest is 34. I've never forced them to keep in touch when away. I don't see the point. Next thing if they: lose their phone/don't charge it etc, I'd be panicking for nothing.

I am 34. If my mum asks me to get a taxi I do. I moan about but she has my safety in mind. But she does then always put money into my account to pay for said taxi. Not because I can't afford it but she knows I would spend it on taxi out of respect for her. Almost guilts me into it.

I never have to text her to tell her I am home safe.

My mum is like this and it can be really frustrating. But...I know I'm gonna be the same. Overthinkers imagine all kinds of worst case scenarios and unfortunately demand reassurance. I can see both sides

Get a taxi. It's terribly cold and you can't be trusted to wear a proper coat

This is too cute! Sounds like my wonderful mum...but yes she's a big girl now

I know it's hard mum but you have to let her go

It will be quicker to walk

It will be heaving with people, busier than noon in many places. You could easily walk. Taking the bus is no problem. It will he hard to hail a taxi most probably there.
Your mum probably doesnt realise either the proximity and the sheer business of that area at night. A bus is fine, a taxi is unnecessary.
Besides you are an adult, you should he able to weigh up the situation yourself and deicde that to do.
Important thing is you have a good time

No. Be kind to your mum. She birthed you. You matter as much to her now as you did that day. Get a taxi and send a text when you get in. It's usually me out and about alone, so I'm the one sending texts to my adult dd (she's older than you). 'Home safe'. That's all it takes. Maybe some 'xxxxx'.

Tell your mum I used to get the night bus home from Kentish Town to Hackney at about midnight including a bit of walking through a poorly lit graveyard when I was 15 and managed to survive each time!

Bless her though, it's sweet that she is concerned even if it's OTT!

Awwwwww that's lovely really!

Bus stop is just outside hotel, Tube a bit further. The other end I'm not to fussed about because there'll be loads of people from the gig making their way home. My ex-FIL is going, so I assume I'll bump into him at some stage. (Not a problem, he's nice.)
Also guessing from the distance there'll be people who were at the gig staying at the same hotel as me, which was the case when I went to one in Hammersmith.

@cornstarch that is a very good point. @SapphireSeptember what sort of coat will you be taking,

I still have to text my parents to tell them
I'm home, after visiting them! And they will text me to say they are home. I'm 38!

@cornstarch

That actually made me laugh. I'm wearing my velvet swallowtail jacket, it's really warm.

My DM was the same. I once went to a function at the sports club behind my house. DH was not able to go as we had no carer for our DD. My DM asked how i was getting home. I said i was walking. She was appalled. It was literally across one small patch of land (i can see the club from my kitchen window). I had lived in this village for over 20 years and never heard of anyone being attacked/mugged. Where i was brought up (and where DM still lived) was also a relatively crime free neighbourhood so no reasoned thinking behind her hysteria!

Bus or walk - definitely fine.

No need for a taxi

Team mum here

And be very glad you have someone who loves you- it’s precious .