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AIBU?

Is it okay to say "neither me"?

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WillyNilly00 · 15/11/2019 13:33

So I say neither me and a new colleague keeps correcting me, apparently it's "neither I" or "me neither".

I've tried to google but still unsure, maybe it's just a colloquialism? I'm from the Midlands if that helps.

For context:
Person 1: It's raining and I don't have an umbrella
Person 2: No, neither me

Am I unreasonable to use the phrase "neither me"

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StartingAgainID · 15/11/2019 13:34

See....... i'd have replied 'me neither'. Wouldn't have used your way round.

BathTangle · 15/11/2019 13:35

It's "me neither" or "neither have/do I"

CendrillonSings · 15/11/2019 13:35

Nor [do] I.

Justasconfusedwithnumber2 · 15/11/2019 13:35

It's me neither

Wolfiefan · 15/11/2019 13:35

I’d say me neither.

Spidey66 · 15/11/2019 13:35

I'd say 'me neither' too

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 15/11/2019 13:35

YABU.

lyralalala · 15/11/2019 13:36

It's not a phrase I've heard tbh, but I think it's pretty rude to continually correct a colleague on how they speak

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 15/11/2019 13:36

I'm Midlands too... I've never heard "neither me". It doesn't seem grammatically correct. I'd always use "me neither".

That said, it's clear what you meant so they should probably stop correcting you if they've done it before.

Ponoka7 · 15/11/2019 13:38

Yep, it's me neither. Or in your example it could be 'neither have I'.

Do your parents say it your way round?

I don't think you should correct other adults, though.

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 15/11/2019 13:38

Sounds weird. I'd still understand it, but it sounds as though English is your second language and you haven't got all the sayings right

Doyoumind · 15/11/2019 13:38

Never heard it said that way in my life and I've lived in several parts of England.

I would say 'Nor do I' or 'Me neither'.

Thestrangestthing · 15/11/2019 13:39

You've got 2 threads on this, your way is wrong.

merryhouse · 15/11/2019 13:40

Neither me sounds very odd to my ears. Growing up (in Leicestershire) I'd have said "nor me". "Me neither" wormed its way into my consciousness later (I can be certain about this because I'm thinking of it as nee-ther not nye-ther and I didn't ever say neether myself).

"Neither I" is just ridiculous. You might say "neither do I" but then that's moved out of idiom and onto complete sentences.

As to which is grammatically correct: probably "nor I" (that's what usually ends up in books).

Cornettoninja · 15/11/2019 13:41

I’m from the West Midlands and never heard your way round. It does sound grating because I think it’s wrong. A bit like ‘Fred learnt me how to read’.

That said, I think it’s okay to correct once, kindly and discreetly, but not to go on about it. How often do you say it for it to be an issue? Is it an important for your role to be grammatically correct?

CountFosco · 15/11/2019 13:48

I'm Scottish and have never heard neither me. However, having experienced people being very rude to me when I use phrases they don't know (outwith being the classic example) I think it's always best to assume someone is using a dialect phrase and so you shouldn't 'correct' an adult's spoken language.

daisyjgrey · 15/11/2019 13:58

The very notion of someone saying 'neither me' when it is quite clearly 'me neither' makes my brain hurt.

WillyNilly00 · 15/11/2019 14:05

@39Thestrangestthing I'm aware there are two threads. The first didn't have voting so I pressed back and changed it, not realising this would result in there being two, I have asked for it to be removed though.

Thanks everyone, seems I am wrong but at 35 I've never been corrected before! I will try to wean it out of my vocabulary

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WillyNilly00 · 15/11/2019 14:06

Also yes she is rude in other ways, in most ways and loves correcting other people too.

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fedup21 · 15/11/2019 14:08

I’m with your colleague

BlackCatSleeping · 15/11/2019 14:15

I’m also from the Midlands and have never heard “Neither me” before. It just sounds weird. I said to an American friend “I feel bad about that” and she corrected me to “badly”. I thought it was funny.

Dahlietta · 15/11/2019 14:26

I've never heard neither me. I wouldn't say 'neither I' though. I would say 'me neither' or 'nor I'. I don't see it's grammatically incorrect - it's just a word order convention thing and your way is not the convention.

Allinadaystwerk · 15/11/2019 14:32

I've only heard and used neither me as part of Caribbean accent or patois, usually pronounced 'needa me' but otherwise I'd say me neither

BossAssBitch · 15/11/2019 14:33

YABU and 'neither I' is also grammatically incorrect.

You haven't been corrected before because you would have to be a massive arsehole to correct a person's grammar (to their face). It's ok to do so anonymously tho

User3421090989098 · 15/11/2019 14:35

I had to read it a few times as I have never heard neither me. It sounds incorrect. I would say me neither.

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