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Is it okay to say "neither me"?

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WillyNilly00 · 15/11/2019 13:33

So I say neither me and a new colleague keeps correcting me, apparently it's "neither I" or "me neither".

I've tried to google but still unsure, maybe it's just a colloquialism? I'm from the Midlands if that helps.

For context:
Person 1: It's raining and I don't have an umbrella
Person 2: No, neither me

Am I unreasonable to use the phrase "neither me"

OP posts:

Am I being unreasonable?


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Petrichor11 · 15/11/2019 14:36

Neither me isn’t correct but it’s not like it’s incomprehensible, your meaning is very clear. Correcting colleagues on how they speak is much ruder!

inwood · 15/11/2019 14:36

Neither me makes no sense to me at all.

KnifeAngel · 15/11/2019 14:39

Also West Midlands and never heard your way.

NameChange84 · 15/11/2019 14:40

"Neither me" is incorrect but I know a couple of people from Fife that say it ALOT. It's annoying but I'd never be so rude as to correct them.

worriedmumtoteen · 15/11/2019 14:42

Person 1: It's raining and I don't have an umbrella
Person 2: 'No, neither do I' or 'Me neither'.

Have never heard 'neither me'. It's either non-standard dialect or just wrong.

AryaStarkWolf · 15/11/2019 14:42

The only time I would use "neither me" is if it was followed by "nor" so "Neither me nor my friend have an umbrella" In your sentence I would have said Me idea what's grammatically correct or not though

QuestionableMouse · 15/11/2019 14:48

A lot is two words 😉

You need the subject (me) before the verb/adverb.

The use of I in that way is someone thinking they're being clever or correct and it really isn't.

IncrediblySadToo · 15/11/2019 14:51

I’ve never heard it either (and I’ve lived all over the uk) but 🤷🏻‍♀️ It’s hardly the crime of the century! There are plenty of FAR more grating things too (aks instead of ask and the ridiculous use of ‘literally’ that’s crept in)

Your colleague is incredibly rude to ‘correct you’ IF something was really bothering me (like someone I had to work with everyday continually saying AKS I’d ASK them why they pronounce it like that etc but I’d do it privately & only once.

Pretty much everything else I’ve been able to let go over my head...(lend/borrow ‘my bad’, ‘like like like like like’)

I have been known though, after FAR too many ‘she turned around and said’ comments to ask if her friends didn’t get incredibly dizzy! 🤣.

PurpleDaisies · 15/11/2019 14:54

You haven't been corrected before because you would have to be a massive arsehole to correct a person's grammar (to their face).

I’m not sure about this-if the op is customer facing or taking meetings representing the company, it’s a small thing to fix. If I was consistently saying something incorrectly, I’d want to know so I didn’t embarrass myself.

YouFellAsleeep · 15/11/2019 14:55

I’ve never heard that before, it sounds really silly, I can’t believe nobody has corrected you before now!

MummytoCSJH · 15/11/2019 14:56

I've never heard anyone say 'neither me'. It sounds really stupid, no wonder she's correcting it, it's probably annoying her🤷🏻‍♀️

InsertFunnyUsername · 15/11/2019 14:57

Meh it is an odd way to say it but just tell your colleague that you know this but are in the habit of saying it.

I frequently say "Me anul" that really winds people up!

NKFell · 15/11/2019 15:06

You're wrong and she's rude Grin

SayWhaaaat · 15/11/2019 15:07


20viona · 15/11/2019 15:08

Me neither

diddl · 15/11/2019 15:09

Where have you heard it or who else do you know who says it Op?

steff13 · 15/11/2019 15:10

I'd say me neither. I think your coworker was correct, but rude to correct you.

tarheelbaby · 15/11/2019 15:22

Languages teacher, native English speaker and long time UK resident here.

Although your meaning is clear by saying 'neither me', it is an unusual construction and sounds odd to me. For comparison, if you both had something would you say 'too me'?
a: I have an umbrella
b: too me

Since 'me' is not a subject pronoun, the grammatically correct answer is 'I don't either' or 'Neither do/have I'. So even saying 'me neither' is not strictly correct but people do say it, just like saying 'me too' instead of the more correct 'I do too'.

Also, for the record, if you and your friend don't have umbrellas, the correct way to express that is 'Neither my friend nor I have umbrellas'. If you choose to put yourself first in that sentence, the correct pronoun is still 'I' because you (and your friend) are the subject of the sentence: 'Neither I nor my friend have umbrellas'.

ilovetofu · 15/11/2019 15:24

Or nor me.

rubydoobydoo · 15/11/2019 15:26

I've never heard it and I've lived all over the country including quite a few years in the West Midlands.
I'd say "nor me" or " neither do I".

Cineraria · 15/11/2019 15:31

It does seem an unusual way to say it. I'd say "Neither do I." about the umbrella. Do you know where you got it from? I was wondering if you'd maybe misheard someone saying "Neither am I." as neither me.

Interestedwoman · 15/11/2019 15:33

I've never heard of anyone using 'neither me,' and it's definitely not right. It's 'nor me' or 'me neither' or something. Maybe 'neither me' is some sort of regional thing? :/

nowlook · 15/11/2019 15:36

I'm from the East Midlands. Never heard it (probably because the OP is the only one who says it). I quite like it. I can hear JRM saying it Confused

Anonanonanonanonanonanonanon · 15/11/2019 15:37

Change the word "neither" to "too" and you'll find your way odd.

person A: "I love the rain"
Person B: "Too me!"

Ellisandra · 15/11/2019 15:47

Midlands too, and never heard anyone say “neither me”.
It would strike me as odd, unless you were fellow woman in your 50s, when I’d assume you had the same menopausal word slippage that I seem to be getting - the neither got in first and you made the best of it!

I’d notice your phrase, but not be too too surprised - and certainly wouldn’t correct you!

I’m interested in the “neither I” though. Has your colleague actually SAID you should say “neither I?”

Cos that’s just weird!

Or does she only mean your me should be I, but in a phrase like “neither have I”?

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