to be outraged by Nativity casting as 'Innkeeper's wife'!!!

[PIPERHELLO]

Daughter (6) has been cast as 'someone's wife' in the Nativity play at school. 'Innkeeper's wife' to be precise.

Err...hello!?

This is fucking not OK! In 2019, to be identified as 'someone's wife'.

Normally I am pretty relaxed about all things school, and I certainly feel sorry for he teachers' workloads, but come on people!? This is 2019 - no woman should be identified by her relationship to a man!? SURELY!

Itching to call them out on this. Itching!

@Piglet89 me too now. Me too. I do of course mean HEROD.

(What if it had changed to Harold? That would have been even funnier!)

Would it be OK if she was called the innkeeper's wife if it was a same-sex marriage? Is it only because she is the wife of a man that it's so objectionable or is being described as a wife offensive in itself? The innkeeper isn't named but described by occupation only. Is that offensive? Would it be OK if your daughter had been cast as the innkeeper or joint innkeeper?

This must be a joke.

Frankly it's more insulting to have a role of innkeeper.

The proper term is nongenderedpurveyorofroomsandintoxicatingbeverages.

“Now she lives with an innkeeper man
And his wife
And I pay for the child
What's the matter with that?”
From Les Mis, line sung by Fantine. I’m sure she was a feminist

@VardySheWrote

The queen of where now?????

Cough cough. (Scotland, NI, Wales, Commonwealth, etc, etc)

margmowczko.com/new-testament-working-women/

Wow, if this is your only issue I wish I was you.

What do you want her to be, the king?!

Is the Innkeeper being played by a boy or girl or - wait a minute - one of the 'don't knows'? Could make the title of 'Innkeeper's Wife' very confusing!

SciFiScream

true
but she IS known and referred to as the "Queen of England" in everyday conversations!

Now she lives with an innkeeper man
And his wife

Mme Thenardier I believe. Can't the OP's darling daughter big the role up a bit. Burst into song?
"Lord knows 'ow I've lasted,
Living with this bastard
In the House"

@SciFiScream I was like “where does Mohamed Al-Fayed fit into the Christmas story? Isn’t he “King Harrod”?

“ you are confusing traditional roles and stereotypes. And since when is it remotely outrageous to be someone's wife. ”
No I’m not. You are talking as if there is one traditional Nativity text that everyone has to stick to. There isn’t.

And no it is not outrageous to be somebody’s wife. It is pretty outrageous to have “being sonebody’s wife” as your identity, though!

DS is still pissed off he never got to be a donkey. Still remember the year he cried with the injustice of being Joseph and not the donkey.

This thread is hilarious. Nominate for classics .

@Piglet89 I've been giggling away since you pointed it out. I didn't even notice! I can't tell if I made a mistake (likely) or if I was autocorrected (also likely - it's never duck)

Each time I try now phone wants to change Herod to Heroes 🤦🏼‍♀️

It is pretty outrageous to have “being sonebody’s wife” as your identity, though!

It's a way of identifying a non-character in a terrible piece of amdram! Have you ever read the credits at the end of the film? No one in real life identifies as "sleeping parking attendant" or "second old man" either.

DS is still pissed off he never got to be a donkey. Still remember the year he cried with the injustice of being Joseph and not the donkey

And there was me about to suggest to OP that it could be worse and her daughter could have been cast as the arse end of a donkey.

At dc’s school about 5 of the kids who are picked for everything get an actual role in the nativity. Everyone else just lurks in the background wearing whatever costumes the school happens to have lying around. Last year ds was a member of the RNLI

The role of the RNLI in the Nativity is a sadly over-looked one Daisy. As the mother of one of the Not-Always-Picked-5, I had a Ds who was an assistant "Litle Drummer Boy".

To my intense pride, he spent all of his on-stage time making sure that the Little Drummer Boy got nowhere near the crib.

I like to think that it was because he instinctively realised that the last thing an exhausted new mother needs near her tiny infant is a small child with a percussive instrument nothing to do with being resentful of his secondary role, no, sirree (And you can put that fucking ox and ass and camel outside as well . . .)

I was a book once, not even dressed as a book, I had to carry a book!!

I was the innkeeper’s wife. It has done me no harm. I’ve got two degrees, a career and a family. I didn’t let it hold me back in life....

Maybe the school have bought a script which listed the part as "Inkeepers Wife"? I don't think it is important in a school play which is only watched by parents.

“ It's a way of identifying a non-character in a terrible piece of amdram! ”
Actually, the innkeeper’s wife is often a decent part. But she apparently can’t have a name or be an equal innkeeper because tradition.

I 100% agree with you here, I don't know why she can't be known as an innkeeper. I doubt if the wife would be sat at home painting her nails anyway, she would be doing just as much work as the man.