DH is an extrovert, very social with lots of friends. I'm not. If we go out, I want to leave after a couple of hours whilst he wants to stay out all night so we compromise, leaving both of us unhappy. We've settled on an arrangement that works for both of us; he goes out and I mostly stay at home.
At Xmas he has a longstanding dinner with an assortment of friends and, as it's Xmas, I attended but more recently it's whittled down to his two closest friends + partners.
The first year of this smaller group they did their gift exchanges after dinner. One friend got me a token gift but the other friend didn't; whilst the lack of a gift doesn't bother me per se, I found it a bit embarrassing and awkward so the next year I didn't go to the dinner because I didn't want to feel that way again. DH was fine with this and said it was a little odd that they hadn't got me a token gift. I don't socialise with them much throughout the year but I've known them 6+ years. As partners come and go, we always buy a token gift for them.
This year, we've already had the conversation that I won't be going to the dinner but he keeps bringing it up and we've now fallen out about it. Probs because I said his friend was rude but hey ho. I feel he has no care for my feelings at all; I'm a bit socially awkward at the best of times so really don't want to be singled out like that during the gift exchange nor have him tell them to buy me something.
AIBU to not want to sit through an encounter I find a bit mortifying?