To use the withdrawal method?
Steenac7 · 12/11/2019 16:13
Context : we are having fertility treatment for male issues (low sperm count). During treatment we have to have protected sex in case we get pregnant and the meds cause issues with the baby (even though our chances of getting pregnant are crap!). I hate condoms - tried loads of types and they all hurt and I end up getting tears- can’t go on the pill or any other kind of female contraception as that will interfere with the fertility treatment.
WIBU to suggest withdrawal method to DH? Does it work - has anyone used it as contraception? We tend to just abstain whenever we’re getting treatment but it makes an already crap situation even worse!
Is withdrawal reliable enough?
scaevola · 12/11/2019 16:16
No, withdrawal is most definitely not a method for those for whom pregnancy wouid be disastrous, and as you have been medically advised to avoid conception during treatment I wouid put you in that category.
Some people woukdn't even categorise it as a method, because the failure rate is so high.
Gustavo1 · 12/11/2019 16:17
Withdrawal is not actually contraception. It just lessens the likelihood of pregnancy. If you actively need to avoid pregnancy, you must either abstain or speak to a health professional about other methods available to you.
If getting pregnant could cause issues or complications, why would you risk it?
Besidesthepoint · 12/11/2019 16:19
My brother used it as contraception. It produced their third child. We were taught at school that it was a really unreliable method, can't think what got into him to use it as a method for contraception. My SIL went along with it because she actually wanted a third child.
So if you want to get pregnant naturally, go for it; if you have a good reason not to get pregnant then use 2 forms of reliable contraception.
Steenac7 · 12/11/2019 16:25
I suppose as we have tried properly having sex every second day for 2 years and never got pregnant and been told our chances of getting pregnant naturally are pretty much zero I thought using withdrawal could work for us as it’s reducing chances of a pregnancy past how already reduced they are.
I definitely don’t want to get pregnant while on the meds but it also seems unfair to have a crap sex life when two years of trying and our test results (virtually no sperm) mean it is so unlikely that we would get pregnant anyway.
I was starting to think withdrawal would be the solution!!
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