Hello,
I have a real dilemma here, hoping for some good advice from the wise Mumsnetters!
So, my DH and I have been married for 15 years. Prior to this he was married before, had 2 children, but his wife cheated and they split up. This was all before I met him.
They divorced, and since then he has pretty much steadfastly disliked the Ex intensely, and has had no contact at all since the children became adults (with the Ex, not the children!).
So, we met and married, all good. My issue is with DH's sister, my SIL. She goes to visit the Ex and stays with her sometimes. Part of me thinks this is because the Ex now lives abroad and it is a "free" holiday for SIL, who doesn't have much money and therefore many other holidays. I do not believe Ex and SIL were very close whilst DH and Ex were married, but they were on friendly terms.
However, I know this visiting hurts my DH, he believes it is disloyal of his sister, but wont say anything as he doesn't want to cause trouble. It annoys me as well as I see his hurt, and I suppose if I am totally honest I see it as SIL showing a preference for Ex over me! (selfish I know, just don't seem to be able to help it!).
So, once, when it came up in conversation I said to SIL something like "do you think it might be hurtful to DH for you to go and stay with Ex?" SIL just laughed and changed the subject. Unfortunately, she did not change her behaviour and still goes, and plasters it all over social media.
So, sorry for the length, but am I being unreasonable, should I just ignore it, or should I do something, and if so, what? Please help. WWYD?