Has anyone ever

[Iamnotagoddess]

Reported anyone close to them for drink driving....

Is it you who has been reported OP?

I suspected someone close but wasn't sure as they were not doing it right in front of me. I raised it with others and there was a degree of denial. In fact they were stopped within weeks and lost their licence.

No casualties thankfully and they stopped driving. Alcohol continued to control their life and they almost died. Recovering now.

But looking back, I was wrong. I should have called when I suspected and I would now regardless of who it was. I think you should. They are ruining their life in any case. Don't let them ruin/end others. It might also be the start of their recovery (though not the point).

Without trying to support that person first?

I would try to talk to them at a time they weren't drinking, but I wouldn't ignore it if I was aware of drunk driving.

@namechange5009 "just beyond" the limit is the same as "over the limit"

I am glad you got help with your drinking and you should be thanking your exP

I think people are being very unfair. I think the op was looking for reassurance and maybe people's experience of doing this and it's had a positive outcome in the end. Not an excuse not to do it.

Look at it as keeping him out of getting into bigger trouble.
If he has an accident due to drunk driving the consequences will be much worse than if you report him and the likelyhood of him having an accident goes up everytime he's allowed to drink under the influence.

They'll lose their job anyway (and possibly theirs and others lives) if they drink and drive. Don't be a irresponsible twat and report them

I did call the police on a client once, they had been entertaining visiting VIPs and we were at dinner. They drank solidly from the beginning of the evening, I suggested organising a cab/Uber and I told that I was being silly. I warned them that I would call the police, they laughed at me and went on their way. I placed the call, they were arrested and charged. Before they could drop my company, I ended it with them(sent email that night from my legal dept)
The 'VIP' guests group really appreciated how forthright I had been and hired my company directly.
I had no regrets because real lives are destroyed in many untold ways, that I really felt I had no choice.

Yes, I absolutely have and would do again in fact I did just that last Tuesday

I have also removed keys on several occasions in my personal life I'm really fucking popular me and many more through work (though many years ago)

I don't see how it can be an option. We live rurally and either go to our local pub or walk / get a taxi

@AnyFucker

I did correct myself, and while I was very angry with him for a while, I have no doubts he was very right in doing what he did, there is nothing in my post that suggested otherwise

If you don’t OP, someone else will, so do some talking and key hiding.

OP what do you want from this thread ? No sane person is going to say ignore it when it's clearly an ongoing issue

FFS, isn't it obvious that she would like support in what is inevitably a difficult situation?

MN does seem to attract some ridiculous posts late at night.

I couldn’t cope with the guilt if I didn’t report a loved one and they were responsible for the deaths of innocent people. I watched a (news night) program the other day, albeit from America- where a drunk driver slammed into the side of a car - killing three beautiful children in one go- they were 2, 3 and 5- two little girls and a boy. Their parents were absolutely devastated! Locally, a young family (Mother, Father and their little ones) are still in hospital, following an accident that was caused by a drunk driver, it’s been reported that there are life changing injuries.

Unfortunately, unless the loved ones who surround an alcoholic stop enabling them, they will never hit the low that may trigger them to stop and get help.

I know it’s hard! My brother is an alcoholic in recovery. Thankfully he had no car to drink drive in, but in your shoes I would report him instantly. I think the best thing you can do for your friend is to confront the elephant that is in the room. Tell them that you refuse to standby and watch them play Russian roulette with their own lives and more importantly the lives of those around them. If they choose to get behind the wheel then report them immediately- if you can, I would follow in the car (at a safe distance) and contact the police and inform them.

@NotBatman Projecting, much?!

I have reported someone before and absolutely nothing happened. I wouldnt have forgiven myself though if someone had been hurt or killed through their stupid actions and I hadnt done anything.

I have reported people (ex pub landlady) but no one close. I absolutely would though. Yes they may lose their job but hopefully it would be a turning point. Alternatively someone could lose a child, a husband a mother. I couldn't have that on my conscience.

I wish I had but was too afraid of the person. I’m not sure if they would have been over the limit by the time the police found them and pulled them over. I’m talking 3 pints in the afternoon on a person, who drinks every day. I will do it if I see this happen again with someone else. I’m NC with this person.

Yes. I know many people ( rural Ireland) who see it as harmless. Lonely Lanes, little traffic etc. It's almost a given to accept it. And I don't.

Though now reading these responses I should have reported more. Instead I gave out, refused to ever sit in a car with anyone over the limit. Despite the smug world's of a pp, over the limit driving in rural places is very common and unfortunately accepted.

@Iamnotagoddess is she doing anything else reckless? What does she say about seeking help?

What @BellyButton85 said.

over the limit driving in rural places is very common and unfortunately accepted.

No it isn't

My dad was reported, and if I knew who it was I'd shake their hand. Sober for a few years now thankfully.

@Iamnotagoddess In the nicest possible way, would you rather you see her lose her job, or you attend her funeral?

Pixie, it is where I live and as I know my life I can say this is the case. I utterly disagree with it and would never do it myself. But you really can't contadict my experience of my life.

Donegal for who's wondering. Google the statistics for deaths in roads.

My DH called on his Stepmother.
It was the last straw as she had counselling and all the support but she just didn’t wanna get clean. She was in denial. Many of the family took her keys or gave her lifts all the time. When she fought my DH and got the keys, he did call police ASAP. In the end, she managed to crash on some post around the corner. What if she had kill someone? That’s what my DH said.

If it was a one off for the people you’re asking and they were sensible people then no but if it’s a recurrent theme you need to call the police. What if they kill someone or run over a pram over the pavement. How would you feel?
PS. A couple of years ago, my DH’s stepmother did died of liver failure due to alcohol.

What @BellyButton85* said.

over the limit driving in rural places is very common and unfortunately accepted.

No it isn't* 

Unfortunately in some rural communities yes it still is. Maybe not by you but by a large proportion of those who live there. You can't say it's not the case just because you don't have experience of it.