To be fed up with this family member?

[Lauctane]

Namechanged as this family member may be on here and I don't want her reading my other posts.

My son is in his 20s and lives with his close friend.

He has been friends with him for around 5 years.

Over the summer I went on holiday with this family member and her children and I invited son and he went with his friend. Family member spoke to me and asked if son was gay as how close he was to his friend.

A few days ago we went away for a few days as it was my birthday and family member said it was weird that his friend was with us and told me that son is probably gay and in a relationship with his friend. And she commented on how close they are. And was making comments towards them

She also said I should talk to him.

I am really fed up with her saying this. What should I do?

i lived with same sex flat mates all the way through my 20s. went on holiday with just one same sex friend (different ones) depending on who fancied coming/was free/had money.
it was normal, i'm pretty sure it didn't occur to anyone that we might be gay!

what is going on in the world today?

How about...

“I think it’s a bit unhealthy to speculate about my adult child’s sex life - as long as he’s safe and happy, I’m happy. His sexuality isn’t relevant until he brings a serious partner home to introduce them to the family and I don’t mind at all if that partner is male or female as long as they are kind and respectful. Now, tell me, why is it such a big deal to you? Some sort of family history you need to talk about?’

Of course, the naughty option is to play her at her own game. “Do you still have sex with Brian, Maureen? How often?”. When she looks shocked, say, “Yes, other people’s sex lives really are their own business, aren’t they?”....

Just a thought but maybe she thinks you are embarrassed to tell anyone he is gay and she's trying to let you know she doesn't have my issues with it?

I dont know if she thinks I'll be embarrassed. I told her that if he was i would accept him.

I think I would actually say to her to stop it. You accept your ds either way, but IF he is gay it is up to him to come out or not as he wishes, and if this nosey relative cant keep her nose out then she'll have to take a step back from your ds and you because your ds and his happiness are more important than anyone else