Are you bossy? Do people tell you that you are?

[whatisforteamum]

I think I am naturally a bossy person.An eldest child of a large family often left in charge of younger siblings and a mum of two.siblings
Even my husband used to remark that he would rather be told what to do even if others said he was under the thumb!
I always ask the questions others are thinking of asking.
I am highly organised too.Do you find yourself being called bossy?or indeed do you care?

Yes: yes, sometimes; I don't care!

No. I’m not remotely bossy.

Yes. I've also been called uncompromising. I judge people by my own standards; I just expect them to be able to do what I do without fucking it up.

I'm not bossy, I'm assertive and I have leadership skills!

Suppose a little bit. But the word "bossy" I find quite irksome, as you rarely hear of men being called "bossy".

Yep! But I don’t think it’s bossiness so much as I like to be in control- I run everything because then I know everything is done

Yes maybe I am a control freak.I'm just used to being in charge and responsible.
Someone at.work.remarked I am bossy even though I had 2 seniors above me.I just organize the workload and can see what is required tomorrow.

I am a little, but I'm a PA, and if I wasn't, absolutely nothing would get done!

I am diffident.
Are you sure you're not obnoxious, OP?

That is why I am bossy.I practically had to find my DH a job when he got made redundant.

Examples of being obnoxious please?

Yes. And I don’t care - though I prefer to think of myself as having leadership skills.

I always ask the questions others are thinking of asking.

That's an example of being obnoxious - if they wanted to ask, they would!

Being bossy is one thing I think having your head up your arse about how great it makes you is possibly what would make you obnoxious.

It has been said but I don’t care, nobody calls men bossy

Yep. I'm assertive and will own a situation when everyone else is fannying around. Funnily enough no one has called me bossy since I was a child and I have a very good reputation for being diplomatic at work, women can be assertive without coming across hysterical. My children call me the boss at home...I guess that's the closest I've recently come to being called bossy! Control freak on the other hand.....

Yes and yes. No I don't care. I might be bossy but I'm always polite with it (I hope)

I am not big headed at all.In fact I am very humble and never even have the confidence of self esteem to eat out of feel worthy of parties or treats like so many people I know do.
An example of asking the question s others don't is one colleague who is very introverted and took holiday when they were given it.
I suggested they were as entitled.as.anyone to get summer holidays.They do now.
They also get the odd week end day as.do the rest of the team
I will always stick up for the quieter ones.

Guilty as charged. Really don't see it as a bad thing. I'm also kind and loyal and listen carefully when people talk. But I'm direct (as in, ask people clearly and politely what needs to be done) at work and am honest and choose words carefully to communicate precisely what I mean.
I think 'bossy' can often mean 'honest, and doesn't fanny around'.
Or so I like to think!!

I do work in a male dominated industry.
If I were a shrinking violet at work I wouldnt.have survived over 30 years.No men are not called bossy are they.

Women are called bossy.
Men are called assertive.

Overbearing is another word for bossy which you tend to hear used about men more.

Yep, often. I got told the other day I was like a headmistress.

Fuck off and don’t make me have to ask five times for the information.

And, yes, men are never called bossy. No, they are assertive or have excellent leadership skills.

I know bossy men

I’ve been told I’m bossy lots of times. Really pisses me off.
I’m quite a loud person though and I don’t think that helps. People tend to think I’m being angry and bossy when actually a lot of the time I’m just excited or interested about something.
I’m also told a lot that I’m quite direct which I find odd, as in my head I’m quite insecure and a ditherer and don’t want to upset people. Apparently that doesn’t come across though and I tend to bark at people