Age gap 6 years younger

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He’s 6 years younger I think it’s to much he doesn’t. 26 and 20 I think it’s to much of a gap. it’s rubbish I wish he was 10 years older opinions?

6 years isnt alot.

I think often it depends on where you are in your lives instead.

If you both live at home etc it wonr feel like that much of a difference. If you have been married and had kids and he is a young lad with not much experience being independent, that it will feel like a lot.

It’s really not a big gap.

DH is 4 years younger, it’s never been an issue. I don’t even think about it.

Depends what stage of life you’re at. Don’t write him off just because he’s younger. Why on earth do you want someone ten years older?

To be honest if you’re think him being younger is rubbish then dump him and let him find someone who really wants to be with him.

Ten years older is a bit too much if you're planning long term, as women's life expectancy is greater than men's, so the expected time you have to live after his death is more like 15 years.

If you are serious about him, by the time you're 35 it won't seem nearly as big a gap.

Thank you for the reply’s. I don’t know tbh I’ve got it my head I should be seeing people like 30 plus I just feel old at 26 haven’t got many years left of being attractive and young. Sad I know!

YABU.

My dad is 6 years younger than my mum, and she was his first proper girlfriend when he was 20 years old. He’s now 55 and they’re still together! So it can work

6 years isn’t much in the big scheme of things but it depends on the individuals and the stages of life you’re in. For example when I was 26 I didn’t have much in common with most 20 year guys I knew so wouldn’t date them, most I knew were at uni whereas I was working - I wanted a serious relationship and they wanted lighter commitments. But it depends on your dynamic and how you get on as individuals

Mm. Obviously it depends on the person but I can’t imagine going with a 20 year old boy at my age (25)... because they are, let’s face it, still boys at that age.

I was 25 when I met and fell for my husband who was 20 at the time. Still together and happy 20 years later. So no I don’t think it matters.

My husband is six years younger than me. We met when he was 22 and I was 28.
We’ve been married for 20 years and have 3 children.
I would have preferred a smaller age gap or him to be younger, but it’s worked so far.

Six years isn’t that much, my boyfriend is four years younger than me, we don’t notice it, he is definitely the more mature one.

I don't think six years is too much ,if you were in your 30s or 40,s by 20:it's quite young does he want something serious ?do you want something serious ?are you at the same stage ,s in life etc ?

I just feel old at 26 haven’t got many years left of being attractive and young. Sad I know!

W...what?

Look, I understand how you feel - when I was 26 I thought that 30 was old, and forty was some unimaginable age where youth was a distant memory and I would sit around like Norma Desmond, lamenting my lost looks and terrified of strong lighting.

I'm happy to say I was completely wrong.

It depends how mature he is and how immature you are. He's 20, he's an adult - does he act like one or is he still a grown-up kid? You're 26, are you an independent adult with a home, a job, looking to settle down, or are you living with parents and still wanting to party every weekend? It could work, or it could be a disaster.

6 years is nothing.

Its not a problem unless one of you thinks it is so...

I’ve just come out of a long term relationship recently, I’m not looking for anything serious really. This guy has just sort of come about unexpectedly so I was curious on outside opinion on the age.

No. that's fine imo

Not a big gap at all.
I would consider whether a 20 year old man may be immature in comparison to a 26 year old woman. But if he’s not, then go for it!

17 and 23 no
20 and 26 yes

I have 2 female family members who married men 6 and 8 years younger. It never caused any problems for them.

Thank you for the reply’s. I don’t know tbh I’ve got it my head I should be seeing people like 30 plus I just feel old at 26 haven’t got many years left of being attractive and young. Sad I know!

You’re the immature one if you think like this! 6 years is nothing.

Deborah Lee Furness is 13 years older than her husband and she made it work. But then again her husband is Hugh Jackman.

Seriously though, if you are happy with him, if he is mature enough for you, then I wouldn't worry about it. Six years really isnt that big an age gap.

My partner was 21 when we met I was 26. We've been together 11 years this month and getting married in 2021