Age gap 6 years younger

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He’s 6 years younger I think it’s to much he doesn’t. 26 and 20 I think it’s to much of a gap. it’s rubbish I wish he was 10 years older opinions?

I'm 10 years older than my husband. I'm 40 this year and he turns 30 a few months after. I don't even notice the age difference.

6 years is a lot at 20 and 26 IMO, it matters less at 35+ I think. Personalities will play a big part as to how workable it is.

If you don't want to go out with this guy, don't. If YOU feel the age gap is too much, then it doesn't matter what a bunch of strangers on the Internet think.

If you'd rather go out with someone older, then that is totally your call, OP. I get the feeling that you secretly don't want to pursue things with this guy, but feel like you need a "good enough" reason - is that the case?

It's not a big gap at all but just the wrong ages. 20 is very young imo

My partner is 14 years younger than me and our wedding is next year

Saying that there is 4 years between me and DP (DP is younger) and really doesn't make a difference for us....

Stage of life > Actual age

A 25 year old who has never had a job and is living off their parents I'd say is incompatible with a 27 year old living independently with 2 kids. As long as you're on the same wavelength wrt maturity and expectations.

Sorry clicked on post before I finished my sentence.

As long as... expectations, that's fine in my books.

I think 26 and 32 isn't much of a gap but 20 and 26 is. A 20 year old is pretty young and unlikely to be thinking marriage and kids anytime soon. The 26 year old is heading towards 30 and it's probably on their radar.
Massive generalisations obviously, I just know that I grew up a hell of a lot in those years and I only know 1 person who has the same partner at 26 that they had at 20.

If he feels too young for you and you don't find him interesting then he's not for you. If it is just the number then you should ignore it and see how he measures up as a person.

7 years between me and my DH. I was 18 he was 25. Been married over 14 years. When we got together he thought I was older and I thought he was younger. By time we realised it was too late and we had very strong feelings for each other. Worked for us

My DP is 6 years younger than me, YABU to not see how it goes at least

DH is 10 yrs older. We were at different life stages at 20 & 30, but it worked on personality and we had time to be patient and let our relationship develop. Marrying in late 20s/ 30s and DCs in early 30s/40s worked.

My caution for older woman/ younger man combination would be if there is a biological clock/ commitment clash.

20 to 26 quite big

26-32 not so big, despite being the same gap

my dh was 18 and I was 30 when we got together. been together 10 years, married 4.

Surely you like / love whoever you fall in love with. Age is only an issue if you want it to be. Are here rules for this now? Given that on average me. Die around 8 - 10 years before their partners, then this way at least you will go within a few years of each other... or actually you won't because it's likely that you'll have more than one significant relationship based on today's patterns and so the whole point is rather moot. The age argument does seem shallow to be honest. What do his parents do? How much does he earn? What are his prospects? Equally shallow points....

my dh was 18 and I was 30 when we got together. been together 10 years, married 4.

Similar to me, I was 29, he was 18 (but an “old soul” if that makes sense).

We have been together 14 years, married 11.

So, you're "nearly" 30 with - what was it - not too many years left if attractiveness??

YABU

I'm 6 years younger than my husband, but I act older and he acts younger it balances out.

But there is no way I'd go near a 20 year old guy if I was single (I'm 26), way too immature.

I vote go for it. My fiancé is younger than me. 3 of my aunties are married to younger men and all are very happy. It depends how immature and mature you both are. Plus your stages in life and do you want the same things

I wouldn’t let it be a deal breaker if all the other pieces click.

You sound really immature for 26 so if he’s the same you might be the perfect match

@FenellaVelour ha I joke to dh he was born middle aged.

OH is 9 years younger than me but we never even notice. We've been together 10 years and have a 7 and 5 year old. I do think he is wise beyond his years though

I have friends who have a 6 year age gap - they met when my friend was 27, and her DH was 21. Her DH was born middle aged though! He definitely wasn't a typical 21 year old - he was career/future driven, even then. It's worked for them, they've been together for 20 years now, married only a couple of years short of that, with children in their teens.