Aibu to a night out

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I'm over due with baby number 2. However I have been given my induction date for Saturday 16th Nov 😊
So every year I go out with a large group of women made up of my mum sisters MIL SILs friends etc. Its out annual Xmas day/night out.
This year it falls on 7th Dec. Starting with a late pub lunch at 3pm and continue onto the venue which is a band basically singing Xmas songs. All very festive.
My question is. Would you women judge a woman going out so soon after birth. I wil be around 3/4 weeks Post birth?
My dh is telling me I'm beinng ridiculous worrying what other people think and that if I'm fit and feeling fine then I should go
I'm well aware things could change ie section needed or stitches. However my first birth was text book and hoping for the same this time.
Think I'm just wanting some reassurance that it's OK and I'm not being a terrible mother leaving my newborn with her daddy for a night.
Ps I'm not a heavy drinker and won't be breastfeeding

Of course not. It’s totally your decision. Your baby will be with their other parent. Go and have a great time.

I wouldn’t judge at all; if definitely recommend taking it easy on alcohol after so long without drinking and being sleep deprived but I’m sure you know that after your first.

If you feel up for going, then go. You are leaving your baby with its other equal parent. It's fine!

Of course you're not terrible! I'm sure you will know that it may not be able to happen for a number of different reasons. But if everything with you and baby is pointing to yes go then you don't need to worry about other people 😊

I don't drink very much have never been a heavy drinker. I should also mention it falls on my 30th birthday as well so the ladies are planning a few special treats I've been told 😊

No judgment from me, I had my first night out post birth when DS was 6 weeks old. Your baby will be fine with her daddy!

I went out when one of mine was 4 weeks old , I left baby with OH. Nobody would judge a dad fir going out so I don't think it's fair for a mum to be judged.

Go and enjoy yourself, you deserve it.

Nope I’d think good on you

Don’t worry if anyone judges you. Stop caring. It’s your choice- if you feel fine- go for it!

The only person that matters in this is you - how you feel. So your DH is absolutely right. Plan on going, cry off if you can't face it on the day!

I would judge you as a very realistic mum to be enjoying some 11th hour freedom before baby is born. If you feel well enough, go. Ensure dh has his phone on if he need him and enjoy the company of your friends.

Let’s face it, mothers get judged whatever they do. You might as well go and have a good time!

Thanks ladies I think I just needed to hear it was OK from someone other than family and friends.

Anyone who judges you isn't worth a single shit. There's enough judgement as it is. If you feel up to it then you GO, have fun and fuck the opinions of any nosey interfering arses!

I went on a girls night away when Ds was nearly 6 weeks so I definitely wouldn't judge you Go and have a fab time.

Assuming you feel up to it, go and enjoy yourself! You’ll be amongst friends and your children will be safe with with their Dad. We all need social support and outlets outside the family unit for good mental health.

I think the first time I did the same would’ve been when DD was around 8 weeks, and she was actually left with a grandparent overnight as my OH came too (big ocassion for mutual friends). So I definitely wouldn’t judge you at all, OP! I see no reason at all why you shouldn’t go, providing you feel well enough to!

How lovely and refreshing that your DH is encouraging you, that's wonderful. Have fun and enjoy the evening

How lovely and refreshing that your DH is encouraging you, that's wonderful

Huh? You write that like it's something unusual. Most men in my experience do the same. The ones who are complete pieces of shit and don't, are in the minority.

I had a night out when ds was 3 weeks old and I'd had an emcs.
Couldn't have given a shit if someone judged me. Ds was safe and looked after at home by his dad.
You've spent 9months growing a baby and then having to birth it you deserve a bloody holiday never mind a night out
I always find it funny that men can go out and 'wet the babies head's within days of them being born and nobody bats an eyelid, it's almost common practice in most places, yet women get judged for it. I say enjoy your well deserved night out and don't give a second thought to what anyone else thinks.

I went to see Bryan Adams 4 weeks post emcs!!
My innards would have to have been down my knees to have cancelled!!

If your not breastfeeding and you don’t have a section then it’s fine. Not sure I’d be awake enough or be inclined to though at that stage.
With dd I missed two good friends bdays. One was about 2-weeks post birth. Even though I was breastfeeding it wasn’t even that, but not being able to put her down etc etc.,DS was a much easier baby and I could’ve done it.

Absolutely go..... you are not just a mother. You need to still be you!!! DH obviously one of the good guys and supportive and DC will be well cared for.
Go have some fun x

Absolutely go if you feel up to it.

It took me 6 months to feel reasonably human again and I couldn't have gone out at that point, physically or mentally as I was an exhausted emotional wreck with a baby perma attached to the breast. But, it sounds like your own experience was much more positive than mine and that you've got a supportive bunch around you.

Best of luck.