Please help me understand

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Hi,
Sport to post it here. I posted it in the relevant section but got no response
I am feeling very drained for past few weeks. I am like a normal average mid 30's woman. I end up making enemies out of people,who I have not even met. Not very long ago a woman apologies for saying things about me, even though she had never met me. She blamed some someone else, who I didn't even know existed for the rumours.

If I go to a gathering or any event,I always get cold vibes from a lot of people. I always dress for the occasion, don't do anything to draw attention.
I am kind, helpful and generally pleasant to be around.
I can't think of a reason why these things happen to me. I am tired and drained by these things
Some one please help me to get to the bottom of it.

But if you dont know, how can we know?

Mother Teresa used to say, people will hate you but be nice anyway.

I was hoping to get a reading.

difficult to say without knowing you, are you quiet around other people ?it might come across as being a bit aloof and you receive the cold vibe as a result.

Littlepaddy: I am quiet chatty & can do small talk too . I would say I am quiet pleasant. Mostly smiling and courteous.

No-one can tell you what the problem is. Try asking someone you know in real life.

Could it be anxiety as to the reason you feel this? I used to be like this, and because I kind of 'expected' people to immediately dislike me, I would go into situations with my subconscious barriers already up, which often doesn't give off a good vibe, IYSWIM?

What do you mean when you say you make enemies from people you haven’t even met? If you’ve never met them how do they even know you exist? Assuming you’re not famous it sounds like somebody you do know must be spreading negative things about you behind your back if lots of strangers have negative opinions if you.

Lockhart: I have tried asking a couple of people I am close to but they say they don't know of anything specific.

Macca84: No, I don't think it's that. I am fine and don't think about it untill I start getting the cold vibes

What things are they saying?

Mynewbear: I am certainly not famous. You know when people don't know you but know of you, if you are from same town. But certainly not know know you. Recently I went to an event attended by people who
wouldn't know me. I instantly start getting cold vibes.

Safety: i don't care about the rumours nor but it's mostly the instant cold vibes that get to me.

Is any one able to do a reading on me please .

A reading?! Do you know where you are?

What makes you think you will get a reading though? Have you the right site?

There are Facebook pages that you can join for all of that stuff.

Are people getting you and someone else mixed up?
Could the cold shoulder be a spill over from your work?
Are you insecure?

I instantly start getting cold vibes

In reality people probably don’t send cold vibes but you perceive the vibes so change demeanour so then people are cold in response to the vibes they get off you.......maybe?

I am not insecure but confusing me with someone else is not something I have considered previously. That's food for thought .

Pipsqndbobs: I don't think that happens but I will be more attentive & see it might be something that ticks.

Find a therapist and have a few sessions, see how they rate your social skills.

I'm assuming you have already considered the obvious possibilities - you haven't slept with someone you shouldn't? Objected to a neighbour's planning permission? Parked over someone's drive while dropping your kid to school? Any neighbour feuds going on?

Why do you keep asking for a reading?

A reading?!

Xiang: None of the above things.

Crap, that just reminded me I was supposed to take meter readings.