Please help me understand

[BlessingsAreComing]

Hi,
Sport to post it here. I posted it in the relevant section but got no response
I am feeling very drained for past few weeks. I am like a normal average mid 30's woman. I end up making enemies out of people,who I have not even met. Not very long ago a woman apologies for saying things about me, even though she had never met me. She blamed some someone else, who I didn't even know existed for the rumours.

If I go to a gathering or any event,I always get cold vibes from a lot of people. I always dress for the occasion, don't do anything to draw attention.
I am kind, helpful and generally pleasant to be around.
I can't think of a reason why these things happen to me. I am tired and drained by these things
Some one please help me to get to the bottom of it.

Watching friends: because if I can't think of anything logically. May be something in my aura is not stable. Hence asking for reading

Box family: 🤣😂

i don't care about the rumours nor but it's mostly the instant cold vibes that get to me.

Seriously. That's the first thing which should be investigated. If there was a rumour around town that you are a prostitute going after local husbands for business, that would explain the vibes. Not an aura...
That was just an example of gossip btw. There can be plenty of topics which would make people treat you this way.

Do you think it might be because you're really fucking weird?

Unstable aura ? Aye.

Honestly, it sounds like anxiety on your end. The one person everyone is most interested in is themselves.

If you don't know them, and they don't know you, how could they possibly form an opinion about you? Even if they did hear a rumor, at this point they're so far removed it's just silly gossip. Unless you murdered someone's grandma or something, I doubt its memorable enough to form an opinion.

They might just be unsure how to include you in a conversation. If you're afraid to approach them, you might look a bit socially awkward.

Just look up a few interesting facts, news tidbits, and some icebreakers. We just had our first all female space walk last month, that's pretty interesting. Think of something that interests you, and find an icebreaker. If you sound enthusiastic about it most people will give it a chance.

"Hi, how are you?"
"Did you hear about the first all female spacewalk? Pretty exciting!"

Just my take on it.

I think she will look more socially awkward if she starts randomly bringing up spacewalks 😂

What were the rumours about?

If you are going round asking people for a reading, this might be affecting your reception.

Grobbynottherbird: There is certainly something wrong with you

Hey OP, you must be feeling awful thinking that people don't like you. And sadly I have no advice to give.

However may I ask a question? The reading bit, please let me know your thought process of coming to MNet for a reading. I'm genuinely not taking the piss, I honestly would like to know.

It's very curious and tbh one of the best things I've read on here recently.

Completely understand if you don't want to :)

I could read you bits of my favourite books if you like

YABU. You’re in a forum that has absolutely nothing to do with giving people “readings.” And yet you keep asking for a reading. When you break social rules like that, people will respond to you coldly, or due to the glory of Mumsnet, just plainly tell you that you’re acting oddly. Are you normally doing things like this? Because that would be where those cold vibes are coming from, if so.

@MarianaMoatedGrange has made an extremely kind offer, though. Cheers.

We're reading your thread, is that enough?

Are you wanting someone on MN to read tarot cards for you? Or something similar?

You say that, OP, but I'm not the one wondering why complete strangers don't like me and talk shit about me.

Honestly, your posts are downright odd.

If you are truly just after a reading, post in WOO, you will find someone eventually who would possibly do one for you.

In the interim, why not go out with a friend and ask them if they felt you being awkward, anxious or stand-offish, this may help you understand yourself better. Alternatively, you can consider therapy.

Here you go OP, if you really want a reading post here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/the_unexplained

As for the rumours, I would speak to the person who apologised and find out what was said and ask by whom so you could address whatever it is immediately.

I am completely non-woo but I will give you a reading anyhow!

I suspect you might be a single woman. You are quite possibly relatively nice looking and are a size 12 or under.

The people spreading rumours - perhaps they are frumpy, unhappily married and insecure. I predict that at some point, you acted in a friendly manner towards one of their husbands - maybe you said 'Hi' or smiled at him.

The good news is that Uranus will soon move into a more fortuitous position!

I get why you are asking for a reading. I meant why are you asking for a reading HERE? This is Mumsnet. You are on AIBU. You have definitely come to the wrong place...